At the minimum, the lesson learned is that my wife's gaydar is spot on. At the maximum, the lesson learned is never trust the anti-hedonist.
After reading the texts of the phone messages, I'm more surprised by his drug usage than by his homosexuality. I can see how he could be pressured into denying his own sexuality as a result of his religious tradition, but drug use seems more of a directly volitional action, pretty easily resisted.

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1985 409d 65k--sold 06
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