Charles, I fully agree with you. Anticipating stops and using the engine to control speed can reduce braking requirements to at least less than half. I have had the current pads on my car for 24K miles, and its all city driving. But even if you do that, whenever you do use the brakes, you can choose to do one of these two things - short hard braking, or long soft braking. MBDoc's answers seems to imply that there's a trade off - short hard braking is better for pads, but bad for rotors, long soft braking is bad for pads, good for rotors.
Does everyone agree?