Benzmac, you are the man. Indeed the first attempt to replace pushed out one pin.To get to behind the connector I had to take all of the computers and relays out and remove the box that holds them in place. A real pain. I am not so sure that the same thing would not happen again if I just removed the relay in the normal way.
Thanks for your fine service.
PS, did I need a new relay, can't tell yet. Starts and runs fine now.