Lights: I have the SEC fogs wired to activate with the existing foglight switch and I had the headlight integrated fogs wired to active with the high-beams. I had this done by my mechanic so I can't help out there.
To remove the bumper: remove the 6 large bolts where the bumper shock meets the cars frame....the bumper assembly will pull right out. Then, rest the bumper on it's top and remove all the small bolts (about a dozen or so)...... Note, the cover, support and chrome are all tied in together so every last bolt has to be removed to get it apart.
I can't remember exactly where I got the cover......It was a junk yard in California......bought it online. They aren't cheap. I paid $400. Note, an new cover lists for $800.
08 997 C2S
03 Jetta wagon TDi