I would love to help, I only have three problems.
#1 I'm at home and my wiring diagrams are at the shop.
#2 I have no idea what car you are working on.
#3 I don't know what you are trying to do. If you are using a relay that won't plug-n-play I would be real worried that it wouldn't play fair (bg) when it does.
Owner 24 bay BSC
Bosch Master, ASE master L1
26 years MB technician