I've been through a divorce but it was 40 years ago. A lot has changed since then. A lot of the OP questions answers may vary from local to local and from judge to judge. My advice is find a lawyer you like and who is respected and put it all in their hands. And don't let material things get in the way of a settlement. Put the children first as they will suffer the most and be affected by the mistakes of the parents for the rest of their lives. Always try to make the marriage work if it is possible and if both will work at it.

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