The kit that I posted the part number on specifically addresses the slipping or flaring on 2-3 upshift at partial load. I would hate to tell you to try the kit and screw something up. I'm not mechanic, but a flare at 3-4 might be low pressure at the vacuum modulator or a small leak.
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