Your car is probably different from mine. I wouldn't want to misguide you into damaging your car.
My relay was in the fuse box. It was black and simply pulled out of the socket. My service manual stated two particular pins to jumper to engage the pump. Be aware that you bypass control circuits by jumpering, so it is not a means to continue driving the car without the relay for certain. It is merely a way to test the system. If I had to jumper to get home though, I would.