Thanks again for the comments. She said in no uncertain terms that she doesn't want "my car", so the final nail's in that coffin...not that I'm surprised, but still...

As mentioned before, I had decided that I shouldn't be involved in the selection process (put bluntly, I have a very strong bias against Jap cars; my blood pressure rises every time I think of her in one, so I had decided that the best course of action was to stay away) and told her this and my reasons why (I wasn't mean or anything ), and she told me that she would also consider a Volkswagen, so maybe I could get her into a TDi...