I had a relationship through work, and when it ended it was hell. Luckily she didn't work in my building, but she was a newsreader/travel girl and I'd hear her voice in the taxi on the way into work in the morning... oof -talk about not being able to forget! (that's a whole different thread though, one preferably accompanied by a large amount of alcohol).
Anyway, where was I?, yeah- be careful! If she likes you though it should be pretty obvious- listen to webwench

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"music and women I cannot but give way to, whatever my business" -Pepys

LMAO!!!

As for an answer, I've dated women that I've worked with twice.... uh... three times because two times were to the same woman.....

Neither time was a good thing. But it may work for you if she isn't anywhere near your department or chain of command. Just be very careful!! Even if you two aren't "related" in the workplace, others you work with may get bent out of shape when they learn you two are dating, which could makes things dangerous for your career. Is it worth it??

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2016 Hyundai Santa Fe Sport (wife's).

Past:
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1995 E-320 Special Edition. 220,200 miles. Sold Sept. '07.
1987 190-E 16 valve. 153,000 miles. Sold Feb. '06.
1980 300-D 225,000 miles. Donated to the National Kidney Foundation.
1980 240-D manual, 297,500 miles. Totaled by inattentive driver.

Ha. I can't EVER tell what a girl is thinking. Sometimes they act strange. Sometimes they're normal. But what does that mean?

I can't tell when a girl likes me or not and I don't want to run the risk of getting hurt. I've never been out on a date and I'm 21. Perhaps its because I'm such a loner, and I never can truly read a girl. I

I personify myself with George Mcfly. "Well what if she says no? I just,...just don't KNOW if I can take that kind of rejection!"

I mean, it would hurt any pride I had for myself if I were turned down.

OTOH a girl from highschool asked for my phone #. I refused to give it to her. Do you know why? Because I was afraid she would call me and invite to socialize(mall for example). I loathe socialization, and yet here I type.

I had my chance, I could've dated, but somehow I felt that would make me like everyone else. I want to be different. I want to achieve something. I strive to reach for a star that shines above and alone.

But everybody has that dream, and to dream is one thing but to achieve that fantasy is another game in itself.

Perhaps my dream would be to have a family of my own to protect and support: My own personal universe. Sigh, I am caught in my own trap.

DslBnz, life is for living, not waiting.

Someone on here has a sig image of a skeleton riding a motorcycle, and I believe the quote about sliding up to the end of life all scuffed up with a drink in one hand and a cigar in the other and hooting about what a ride it was. There's a little truth in that, you know.

And in keeping with webwench's biker analogy, you want to ask yourself "do you think this women is just along for the thrill ride, or will she stick with you and support you when you hit a rough patch?" Whether you are a biker or not, we all hit "rough patches" in one way or another. I hit one. here in Oklahoma it was called the "oil bust of 1982." Many lost capital and were additionally left with debt. I guess I was one of the lucky ones. I only lost income. You find out a lot about people in times like these. My (then) wife bailed out. A little less than a year later, I met someone who said "I'll do this and you do that, and we'll put things back together." Guess what? We put things back together, and in about 3X better shape than ever before, in just a few years. 22 years later, and we're still together, and still working together to continue to put things back to 4X , 5X, and beyond what they were before the "oil bust." And, it's going that way.

Let me put this another way. Put on your Armani suit, fire up the SL 600, pick her up and go to a 6 star restaurant and a Broadway play, an then take her back to your estate for cocktails, and I think we all know how it is going to end! But put on your good jeans, dress "T" and sports jacket, fire up your Ford truck, pick her up for a dinner at Chillis and a movie, and take her back to your condo for beers. Now THAT'S the test!

Thanks,
Richard

Re dating at work:
#1 I don't do it and that's how I stay married (for 27 years).
#2 For a lot of the folks where I work, it is almost the only way. The hours and schedule are too brutal.
#3 The company is actually pretty good about it all. We have had marriages made and marriages broken. Sounds just like the outside world.
#4 (I'm a computer geek at a newspaper). Around here, the choices are pretty good. We are a big paper and we can hire the best. Pretty much anyone who walks thru the door is educated, intelligent, and hard working (although we do get ringers sometimes). Not a bad place to fish. Spend a little time with them and you can find out if they have a heart, and if it's in the right place. If I was single and looking, I would want to be here.
I got lucky and married way better than I deserved, a long time ago. She still puts up with me so the few remaining active brain cells I have tell me to hang on to her with all I've got. Case in point: I bought her an '88 Sl for Christmas a couple years back. She lets me drive it on the track at speed from time to time.
That's mutual respect!

You know if she likes you when you tell her that you like her and ask her out and she says yes. Life is short and it is a big world out there. Don't waste time, ask her and get on with it.

Do not be offensive when you ask her. Make it easy to laugh it off and she will appreciate the attention.

It is very important to choose a woman that you want to live with. If you can't share your lives with each other you are not right for each other.

Dating someone at work is a mixed bag, you are risking your job and future employment potential. Is it worth the risk? Only you can answer this one.

That's only true if you're looking for a woman to live with -- waaaaaay too serious...

That was a large assumption on my part, I am too adult these days. If you are just looking to get laid you play the numbers. If you ask enough, someone will say yes. Just looking to get laid at work is very, very foolhardy if you want to keep your job. Keep in mind also that in the work environment today it is not unusual to be on videotape and/or audiotape.

There are various levels of friendship between getting laid and getting married. I agree that a great deal of caution is warranted. Not usually a good idea to **** in your own backyard.

I didn't say anything about getting married. There is a big difference between a committed relationship and legal contract.

You made my day, I needed a good laugh today.

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Life is for living.
What is your definition of living?
The ideals for living vary from person to person. Rather than arrive at my grave,cigar in hand, near Heaven's gate singing, "WOO HOO What a ride!", I'd rather be proudly reminiscing of an accomplishment I'd made for the future of my family. Knowing my life wasn't wasted on my person.

One thing is certain I cannot put music to words without conveying my rythym. Words as typed across the screen can be read in different ways from different people with different opinions.

I pick myself out of my doldrums and may just be thankful for what I have: A supportive, albeit argumentative, family, several Mercs, my health, my friends(nobody my age, ha), my God.

'Tis a curse to be overly shy and paranoid.

Thanks, moving right along with the thread.

DslBnz, I am right there with you. What is even more a curse, is that everyone thinks that because I drive a Benz, a motorcycle, and have all this nifty high-dollar junk that I am very happy, have a girlfriend, and all this other crap. So obviously ( ), I am already "taken".


In reality, I am just barely floating financially, doing poorly in school (and am burning out quickly), and have a miserable social life. I LOATHE contact with people my age and am not the kind of guy to pick up some gal at the bar, where all the people my age hang out. And everytime I hear about how some ruthless witch ripped out some friend's heart and stomped on it, I am even happier that I just have a dog. She would never do that, unless it was for a really, really big wheel of cheese...

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