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Originally Posted by aklim
Why? Because the kids in your neighbourhood do? If they get molested by a priest are you going to say it is totally the priest's fault? I think that it would be partly your fault then because you didn't watch them. This is not the safe day and age of Beaver. They are your kids and you can do as you please. However, if something happens to them and you weren't watching them or there wasn't a responsible adult present, do remember to look in the mirror and add the person you see there to the list of the blamed.
As long as your kids get hurt and it doesn't cost anyone else a dime or inconvenience anyone, it is your business provided the law doesn't step in. You would pay the bills in full should your kid get a serious injury "learning" how to fall properly, right? :rolleyes:
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A vast majority of molestations occur by someone the family knows.
If you protect the kids too much, its just as bad as being neglegent. It goes to the same concept of germs, grow up in a bubble, and you dont develope anti bodies.
It isnt to say parents should be wreckless, but its just that I see today over protection is the name of the game, and its harmful. It partly because of the PC crowd and women having more power now. It needs to be more balanced. Women have a natural inclination to protect, men to explore and take risks.
A great example is women bundling up their babies. They think its better safe than sorry, yet factually, it turns out that overbundling your baby while sleeping is more harmful than underbundling them and allowing them to be too cold. However, the affects of overbundling them cannot be directly correlated as easily as the "supposed" effects of underbundling them, hence women overbundle, even if you explain why its harmful.
I saw a kid fall off his bike and landed on his head, he had a helmet on, he never even put up his arms to protect his head, no need. I have 5 kids, two adults now, they grew up just fine, no major injuries. The three younger ones, 8, 10 and 10 just spent a year plus, living in a house totally under construction, there were alot of dangerous situations, but they learned how to avoid them and no major injuries occured.
We still dont have a railing on some parts of the second floor, they know to avoid it.
Dont think it is so much different today than in Beavers world. Its just that when something occurs today, we are much more readily made aware of it. Believe it or not, they had molesters back then too.
You have to have a balance, but having a car with a broken trunk is just plain stupid. I doubt the guy was so busy he didnt have time to fix something to prevent this.