update and history on this girl, and fear of my communication.

[nh500sl]

So, there is this girl that I have known for quite some time, on a very brief basis. However, in this past term at school, I have come to spend a lot more time with her, doing school projects, errands, or Volvo projects. (she drives one too.) We do have other things in intrest, such as running, and she mentioned that we should get togeather and do that sometime to. I was thinking that was pretty good. I met with her today, two just do a little errand running with her, and at the end of the day, I asked her if she was going to be around between after christmas and New yerars. She told me that she was going to spend the rest of the time at home. I was a little bummed, but I was sure to leave her in a positve mood as we departed for the the rest of the day. Here parents live in a town about 50 miles north of where I live. I can see that it is a little further away. I guess, I'm getting mixed messages that she might be interested in me, and that she might not, seeing as how she is going to not be around for the next week. Maybe I'm just thinking about this too much, but I would like something to happen in this realationship, as I have never hade some much in common with any one girl before. I find that she is a increadible person, I love her simile, her laugh, and her sense of humor. I wish there was a way that I could tell her this without complety freaking her out. Does anyone have any advice before I comeplety screw it up and make an jerk out of my self.

[Meta6981]

well you could drive to her parents house and chill, or give hwer some calls over the break and chat it up. so wait a lil bit to put the moves on. goo luck

[Vronsky]

This is one of my favourite hobbies :
don't push it, and don't be too eager: woman are turned off by guys that appear desperate. Act relaxed, casual and above all normal, just as you do with your male buddies. Present yourself as this great, funny guy with a fascinating life and little spare time. Next time you see her, ask her if she'd like to join you and some of your friends for a cup of coffee or maybe lunch. Show genuine interest in HER as a person, ask her lots of questions and talk about common interests (so no cars, computers, sports and politics), avoid talking about yourself. Wait for her initiative next. Never ever ask for her telephone number or email, but wait for her to give it to you: if that happens you know you're in

Keep us posted.

Cheers!

PS
If she says no to your invitation: forget her at once and move on....!! You'll be waisting your time. With woman: no=no for once and for all.

And women don't like sissies. You have her in the bag already/////pull the trigger.

Here's a question, does she play with her hair when she's with you? If she is she's thinking about something other than errands. If you know what I mean

[Vronsky]

...forgot to mention this: don't get serious, don't give her presents, don't flatter her, don't say you like/love her, but most of all keep this in mind at all times: this girl is NOT your once-in-a-lifetime opportunity.

Have fun and enjoy the game !!

Originally Posted by Vronsky

...forgot to mention this: don't get serious, don't give her presents, don't flatter her, don't say you like/love her, but most of all keep this in mind at all times: this girl is NOT your once-in-a-lifetime opportunity.

Have fun and enjoy the game !!

Vronsky Bond......0069

[G-Benz]

Hmmm...nl500sl...if your tag name is indicative of the vehicle you are seen cruising in, I'm not sure why she hasn't already gone down on you!!??

[Larry Delor]

And for heaven's sake....Be yourself!

(Good luck, btw)

[GermanStar]

Is this a different girl, or is this thread number two about the same girl?

[Ra_]

Originally Posted by Vronsky

...forgot to mention this: don't get serious, don't give her presents, don't flatter her, don't say you like/love her...

I agree strongly with the 'don't say you love her part'.
You can scare her off and also remove any 'challenge' for her.
Females enjoy the hunt as much as men do.

I don't agree with the rest though.
Nothing wrong with pointing out great things about her.
EVERYONE loves compliments. We always believe them.
( "hmmm.. how perceptive. I wonder why more people haven't noticed how wonderful I am?" )

People often remember a compliment, their entire life.
Point out her good qualities, both appearance wise and personality wise.
Throw in some light criticism, to maintain your credibility and keep her guessing.

Small gifts are fine, as long as you don't give her jewelry, or other 'romantic' gifts.

( "I saw this and thought of you. It was only $4 so you lucked out." )

You obviously don't have her hooked yet,
or you would see the signs...
but you have a chance!

Good luck.

[Austin85]

.There's one of the best movie lines from The Godfather when Michael goes to the town of Corleone to hide out, after blowing away that cop...and sees that hot Italian babe....the body guard says..."In this town the women are more dangerous that machine guns."

So stay away....buy a basketball.

[wbain5280]

Click on this link and buy the package. She looks at you as a friend and you're never going to get anywhere. You're too needy.

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/13560/

Lots of good advice on how to deal with women.

[DslBnz]

Precisely. Women seem to need distance. By barging in on her personal family life you are being overly intrusive, and will be rejected. She needs her space. Don't crowd her.

Its a tough game. I once tried to get involved back in high school. My heart was crushed, and I haven't been back since. I made the mistake of being over-agressive. It doesn't work, and you will be traumatized from the experience of rejection.

Reveal your feelings, only when she reveals her own.

Women are weird. There is no way to tell what they're thinking at any one time. I don't get them either, and I'll probably stay a dateless bachelor for the rest of my life, not due to lack of interest, but lack in sociability.

[nh500sl]

Well, she called me today, but I was busy at work and was not able to get the the phone. She was latter not there when I called her back several hours later. I like the advice, but I sure hope that I can get over my deisre to make everything work. I have always lived on the principle that if you work hard enough, you can have what ever you want. Well that is true for most things in life but woman. I guess I'm just thinking about it too much.

[cmac2012]

Originally Posted by MedMech

And women don't like sissies. You have her in the bag already/////pull the trigger.

Here's a question, does she play with her hair when she's with you? If she is she's thinking about something other than errands. If you know what I mean

Oh man, I love it when they start twirling their hair. Homina, homina...