Jane & Joe - Relationship Advice.

[GottaDiesel]

Funny story I'd like some input on.

Jane is an early 30's independent girl (job, own place, etc.). She hasn't been in any real relationships (under 6 months). She enjoys spending time with her friends, but relationships with the opposite sex just never seem to work out.

Joe is also an early 30's independent guy (job, own place, etc.). He's been in several long-term (serious) relationships. Enjoys spending time with friends, etc.

Question:

Selfish v. Use to doing things for "me".

Jane seems to do things that are good for Jane.

An example:

You're reaching for something while holding something. Everyone has done it. You yell into the other room, "Jane I'm in a bind, can you can here for a sec." -- 5 minutes later Jane comes in room (ok, maybe 2 minutes, but not right then and there) and asks what is needed. You say, "Never mind I took care of it." -- Turns out she was folding her laundry, and wanted to finish it before coming in to see what you needed. (You are over her place helping her do something that she needs done.) This is a petty example, but I'm trying to paint a picture here of Jane. Jane seems *very* self absorbed to me from everything I have seen and heard. Jane does what is good for Jane. Joe can wait, it would seem.

Question:

Is Jane simply not use to thinking beyond her or is she what some would consider a selfish person?

Question:

How would you deal with that?

Thanks!