So, I have been talking and hanging out with this girl for a few weeks. It has come up about us becomeing roomates. What would you say in reguards to this. This is the girl that I mentioned about a week ago.

It is a lot easier to get them to move in if they don't have an apartment of their own, but it is very hard to get them out once they arrive. I know of a fellow that invited a young woman to spend the week end with him at his apartment. They had a fight, and she called the police. He was taken away for domestic violence and the next morning, she got a restraining order against him. He couldn't get back into his apartment for almost 2 months until it was sorted out by the courts. When he finally did get back in, he found that anything of value was gone, along with the woman. I would say that if anything you should move in with her. It will be a lot safer for you if something goes wrong. You will still have your own place to go back to.

I would be moving in with her.

How long have you known her again? It doesn't seem to ahve been that long, but I don't know the specifics. But i'd probably try and get to know her more.

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I met her this summer, but we have not started to spend time togeather until the last three weeks.

If you move in and don't argue or feel uncomfortable in 2 weeks, you've got something special having known her only a few months. If you can imagine the worse case scenario and be able to deal with it then go for it.

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1974 240D 3.0L 4(M) - 250K -OM617.910 + 300D FW + Rajay turbo power!
1977 6.9 3(A) - 84k

Never become roomates with someone you're not sleeping with or who isn't family.

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I see this as a very simple (my values here...)

Don't move in.
You are not married to her.
I've seen too many friends get in this situation and think
1) Free nookie
2) Less rent to pay

Where is the downside ?

The downside is a year or two later when (more often than not) things go south, and if you are lucky, you are stuck with a LOT of uncomfortable situations like "I think its time for me to find my own place". In the worst case, see the 2nd above post.

I am playing the odds, but, there is a reason they are that way.

If you get a place of your own, you never have to answer that question "where am I going to sleep tonight ?"

-John

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2009 Honda Odyssey EX-L
12006 Jetta Pumpe Duse
(insert Mercedes here)

Husband, Father, sometimes friend =)

In the old days when things were not so complicated, I dated a woman for 3 years, we lived together for 8, and have been married for 20.

A friends wife awakes during the night to find that her husband was not in their bed. She puts on her robe and goes downstairs to look for him. She finds him sitting at the kitchen table with a hot cup of coffee in front of him. He appears to be in deep thought, just staring at the wall. She watches as he wiped a tear from his eye and takes a sip of his coffee.

"What's the matter, dear?",she whispers as she steps into the room, "Why are you down here at this time of night?". The husband looks up from his coffee .

Do you remember 20 years ago when we were dating, and you were only 16?" he asks solemnly. "Yes I do" she replies. The husband paused. The words were not coming easily. "Do you remember when your father caught us in the back seat of my car making love?

"Yes, I remember" said the wife, lowering herself into a chair beside him.

The husband continued. "Do you remember when he shoved the shotgun in my face and said, 'Either you marry my daughter, or I will send you to jail for 20 years?"

"I remember that too" she replied softly.

He wiped another tear from his cheek and said......"I would have gotten out today."

I was director for a non profit event, so after work.
Girl was engaged. Kept ring a secret. Fiancè off to school two states away.
She was attracted to me, I had no clue. I got a clue later on.
Anyway, after working with her 4 nights a week for almost a month, she said she and another couple of girls were just about to sign a lease on a house and needed a 4th roommate. I needed to move out from parent's place. This was local to work, in a nice town, so seemed like a good idea. I meet the other girls. OK. All lookers. Sweet. Nothing going on, yet.
Comes time to sign lease. Landlord only wants two names on lease, makes sense to me. She and I are both on it. We sign.
2 weeks before move in date, we hook up.
Fiance is now out of the picture. She broke it off, so she says. I didn't meet the guy.

We keep our little thing a secret from the other roomies for a few months. Eventually, a mistake is made and we are found out by them. The others encourage her to break it off with me. She does. We try to be friends.
I make it difficult, admittedly, especially when former fiance is back in the picture for the occasional 'visit'.
Eventually, the girls have a meeting and decide they want me to leave, that there are 3 of them;that it's 3 to 1.
My name is on the lease as is hers, equally. I say I'm not leaving.
Gettin' ugly.
They start putting up signs in local supermarket advertising for female roommate, describing our house. Nice ads, gotta give them that.
Of course, I dispose of the ads.
I call them for a meeting and lay it out.
My name is on the lease, even if at 50%. Most of the stuff in the house, including furniture belongs to me. I use 1/2 the garage with my car and two motorcycles as it is.
They are welcome to stay, probably won't, but I'm not leaving.
They write a nasty letter to landlord. Landlord sees no reason to evict me, so replies back that they should work it out with me or leave.

They leave.
All that occured over the course of 11 months. Pretty intense months.

Bottom line, make sure your name is on the lease. If landlord only wants one name, make it yours.
Actual leaving/ reassigning of bills to my name/deposits, etc. was all civil, no trouble. I was lucky and could have would up being stiffed for that by the other two. I would have never expected her to act improperly in that regard.
Not sure what ever happened to her. Some day I'll find out.

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"If my calculations are correct, when this baby hits 88 miles per hour, you're going to see some serious %$&^."

You both single? I wouldn't move in with a woman if I was single, unless we were already together.

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2007 E550 4Matic - 61,000 Km - Iridium Silver, black leather, Sport package, Premium 2 package
2007 GL450 4Matic - 62,000 Km - Obsidian Black Metallic, black leather, all options
1998 E430 - sold
1989 300E - 333,000 Km - sold
1977 280E - sold
1971 250 - retired

"And a frign hat. They gave me a hat at the annual benefits meeting. I said. how does this benefit me. I dont have anything from the company.. So they gave me a hat." - TheDon

Hmm... trying to decipher that. LOL!

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You don't need a weatherman to know which way the wind blows - Robert A. Zimmerman

Giving the other threads the benefit of the doubt regarding veracity, if this isn't a kamil style troll thread, man you need to get some counselling. Seriously. These aren't decisions a stable person would make based on internet advice.

HA! Just re-read it.

Just say it with Clouseau's accent - it'll make sense then...

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Chris
2007 E550 4Matic - 61,000 Km - Iridium Silver, black leather, Sport package, Premium 2 package
2007 GL450 4Matic - 62,000 Km - Obsidian Black Metallic, black leather, all options
1998 E430 - sold
1989 300E - 333,000 Km - sold
1977 280E - sold
1971 250 - retired

"And a frign hat. They gave me a hat at the annual benefits meeting. I said. how does this benefit me. I dont have anything from the company.. So they gave me a hat." - TheDon

Damn that was good!