Anyone have this marriage problem?
 

Some of you guys probably think I'm crazy, but don;t you wish your wife would talk more?:stupid:

My wife is naturally a very quite, soft spoken woman.

I love her to death but am starting to get irritated when sh goes mute.

Maybe it's me but it's bothering me more and more as I get older.

When she's around others, she's a chatterbox, when it's her and I she is a lot more quiet.

Usually, I am the one that starts most conversations, but sometimes I'm off my game a little bit and am reserved.

That's when I notice her lack of conversation skills more.

She's not just that way around me, the kids as well.

She actually talks more on the phone more than in person.

Besides working apart, we are always together and have the same friends, which could be part of the reason, as they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Maybe you should call her on the phone?:D

Quantity is unimportant if the quality is there.

As long as Mrs B murmurs something like, "Put down that drink and ride me you stud!" every couple of years or so, I'm good.

However, if she is distracted in your presence and is dismissive even when you do have a conversation then you have something to worry about. IMO.

But what I don't know about women would take 30 years to explain. Or a smart boy from Rutgers.

B

Not exactly the same but similar. When we have a strong disagreement, my wife is more likely to be quiet when I want to talk it out. On a day to day basis, I am probably the one more likely to start a conversation, like you, but my wife is quick to jump in.

Offer her a couple of white crosses. That should jump-start the old chatter box.

she is probably just a quiet person. but it is possible she is suffering from depression. has she always been this way?

if she is not depressed, then i would just try not to be irritated. lots of guys probably have the opposite problem and would kill to have yours.

my wife does battle depression. she takes meds for it and most of the time she is fine, but from time to time if life is too stressful she clams up and gets weepy (more than usual) and then i worry.

but when she is not depressed, i cannot complain. she is pretty ideal. in most every way.

tom w

LOL - mine thinks she is punishing me when she does that;).

Mine threatened to "cut me off" one time and I told her that would be hard to do if she did not know where I was getting it.

I wish I knew 1/2 as much as he knows about wimmen. Maybe it has something to do with driving a tt. The older I get the more I like women that like to ride Harleys;).

She's never dismissive, not at all. She's just friggin' quiet!

She'll sit by herself and do crossword puzzles for an hour without saying a word to anyone.

Like I said, she's just quiet at home to us. Everywhere else she's yacking it up for the most part.

Maybe I'm just silly. If she talked more I'd tell her to shut the hell up!:stupid:

Plantman, I think we have had conversations kinda like this in the past. I know you are of Cuban heritage. Is your wife also? For a Cuban girl to be quiet is very unusual. Unless she was raised by old school parents. Sometimes it can be freaky when they are quiet because you know they are just plotting out some ***** in their mind.

IMHO, if you are concerned about the silence, nicely break into her crossword mode. Or invite her out for a walk around the neighborhood. Involve yourself in her quiet moments. Sounds cliche, but women really need almost constant attention. And for all you guys out there who think that your wife doesn't....get ready for bad news.

Give her a present that speaks of your love. Doesn't have to be expensive. Or not too expensive.

For example, every couple of years or so I buy my wife a gift certificate at a local women's spa. They have package deals that are quite variable. I buy a fancy-schmancy steam bath, full-body massage with all sorts of aroma therapy stuff, new-age music and a gift package of oils and aromas and crap. Follow that with a dinner at a restaurant near the spa. After all that the ol' gal is clay in my hands, bwah-haha!

This year I'm thinking diamonds. I'll send her ass to Arkansas to dig her own! (kidding)
B

You think that will make her talk more than a couple of white crosses?

what's with the white crosses?

i think the most important thing is to listen to women. along with paying attention to them.

b. those are some excellent ideas for foreplay!

tom w

I consider myself quite fortunate in that regard.My wife combines a strong personality with a resonant,deep voice which commands attention,Ideally suiting her as chief Nurse Educator at the local V.A.hospital.

Not to be selfish but I have,by degrees induced her to read the Classics,for her own pleasure and mine as well.

There are few things that can compare with a voluptuous figure and sonorous voice reciting Coleridge,Racine,Shakespeare,Keats and a host of others while I stroke her ample,ivory-toned thighs and revel in sensory and sensual delights,after all, sex is great but so are other stimulations of the mind and emotions.

carlton, you are a wild man!

tom w

May as well enjoy all life affords before God or whomever decides to exercise their final option on your contract:D