Hey guys! I havent posted here in awhile but I always remembered to come back for help not just for the benz, but general "life" questions.

Back in July I was at a friend's house who is a superindentant at a apartment building and we were all sitting outside talking on the balcony. This girl (Diana) that lived in the building that she knew, parked her car in front and my friend called her over...long story short she ended up staying for hours and we all got to know her pretty well. Summer went on and me and my friend saw her alot "as a friend" and went to many events. She had a boyfriend for just about 2 yrs but was always complaining about him yet somehow still loved him.

Then one day I was back at the buildings where she lived visiting my superindentant friend and Diana came by 10mins later. I noticed while Diana while I was talking to Diana she would get nervous and didnt want to look me straight in the eye...typical of a girl liking a guy. My Superindendant friend noticed these things for awhile and then one day told me (I think she has something for you i can tell...im a girl). I didnt beleive her much first but then later on as months went by it became apparent.

She then started to tell me how she is not having feelings for her boyfriend anymore and the other night she was over at his place and just didnt care. At this point I was interested in her even more! I then everytime I seen her from then on, started flirting with her more and more and she flirted back...no matter what I did I had 0 rejection...it came to the point where one day I told her what I would do to her in bed and she replied the same back.

Then it all happened, one night her boyfriend told her some random chick walking by was better looking that Diana was...everyone was in shock who heard....I was in shock yet happy inside he said that cause it spelt the word "OVER!". They somehow talked things over and took a "break" from eachother. Well in this "break" me and her grew closer together, to the point where we held hands and almost had sex (due to drinks) otherwise im not the one to get into bed on the first real date.

One day the "ex" left a rose on her car (C230K BTW) and when she saw that she said "he doesnt know whats coming to him". That night she officially broke up this 2 yr relationship she had with him and cried but met up with me after. Since then (1 week) we are acting like back to "friends" and after showing all this feeling for me she says she cant date anyone at this time yet.

Sometimes I dont blame her but I feel "wasted" since my feelings were now taken on a rollercoaster ride and Im not sure where or how to act with her.

Im bad at telling stories, but anyone ever stuck in something similar?

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Nice to see you around here!

I know very little about women. But it seems like she was using you to break off her relationship.

I tried dating two girls that were coming off long term relationships. Neither worked out.

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Well today she told me bluntly "me head is still with the ex"

I guess i better start insulting girls to get anywhere.

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That is probably true actually.

I have heard it said that if you went into a bar and asked every cute girl in there if she would have sex with you, you would get slapped a LOT less than you think.

And get laid a LOT more.

Girls? Go and figure them out. I can't. After a lifetime of trying.

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You were the outlet, I would distance yourself and move out of that situation.

I wouldn't reccomend that, it's not going to create a good relationship....but you knew that.

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Welcome to the "clueless about females" forum...it's has a VERY LARGE membership!

I once dated a woman who just couldn't leave her "ex" for whatever reason...even though he beat her on several occasions!

She kept me from confronting him (and BOY did I EVER want to), and no matter how much I convinced her to leave him and stay with me, she would always crawl back to the ex.

I eventually gave up.

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Just whip it out and see what happens. Either it will or it won't. You'll know instantly.

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I'm no pro, but I can say I've had pretty good luck.

It sounds like you've made a good friend. If you want to keep her as a friend, do that. If things are meant to be, they'll evolve. Don't wait around forever though. Women can be insanely jealous too...so if you meet someone in the meantime, she will likely begin to show signs of how she feels and if there's still potential or not.

They were together for 2 years and there's a LOT of history and memories there. You can't just sever that all at once. It takes time to move on. Moving on too soon can cause it to bubble to the surface later and ruin a good relationship. Trust me on that.

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I think this Jen-Tay is a dude posing as a chick. The above "plan" is a man's litmus test of a relationship if ever there was one!

JMO

P.S. I predict this will become a ten-pager quick

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Since I've seen pictures of herself posted here, I don't think that applies.

Harumph! Is the response I got one week after I told a girl I liked that I was tired of her antics. Moved on, started dating another girl (who had more than a few skeletons in her closet). Once she (girl #1) found out about this other girl, she became even nastier to me. She never made eye contact...Never seemed to listen to a word I'd say, never even responded when I greeted her. Really cold.
Well, word got around that I broke up with this other chick and now, for the first time in months, she's been friendly towards me. "Friendly" in the sense that she's staring at me, sitting closer to me, and she actually smiles at me! Hmmmm....I already told her how I felt about us, her friends still know I feel that way, and if that hasn't put her off....Hmmmm!

I suppose you could just plain out ask the girl: Do you like me? This puts a lot of pressure on her, and her first response may not be reflective of her true feelings. She'll try to defend her pride if the relationship is too "green". I've learned NOT TO FOCUS on just one particular girl. If you do early on, and you cling, you'll probably lose her. There are so many women out there. All we have to do is ask. Women, traditionally, have to wait.

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Bang her like there is no tomorrow and ditch her. I sure as hell don't think she is relationship material if she is "tasting the grass" on the other side while still staying on that one side. So what if you two hook up? You think you are that special that it won't happen to you? So if you hit a rough patch she might just walk over the fence to the next pasture. If it doesn't taste good, she stays. If it does, you are history.

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Wow thanks for the good replies. She did admit before we got intimate that she did like me, as I liked her. In my opinion it went WAYY to fast but at the same time, we were both going with the flow.

I really dont want to lose her as a friend to say the least, as my best friend is friend's with her too so it would be a mess, but this just "spoiled" it.

Shes a damn horny girl too and is very open about sex so I know something like that woudlnt be an issue but im sick of having at this point, people just for sex. She was more to me.

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First of all you need to distance yourself emotionally from the situation. Read your OP and think "What would I tell this guy if this guy wasn't me?". Then remind yourself that (the vast majority of) women can be summed up with one word: Control. Control the sex, the money, the conversation, the speed or lack thereof of the relationship....think about it and it's hard to disagree.
Statistically, shrinks tell me, it takes about 20% of the time a couple is together to elapse before either can move on in a healthy way. IOW, a 24 month relationship will take most normal people 5 months or so to get over. Tell her kindly but bluntly that you don't want to compromise anything that you may have and that in your estimation it would be best if you not have any contact for several months. Then disappear and watch from a distance. She will either stay with him or move on and break the rebound guy's heart.
You sound like a nice, thoughtful guy. You also sound like me 25 years ago. I was a "fixer". After I'd rescued those poor women from failed relationships, treated them with respect and kindness and fixed their self esteem they didn't need me anymore and moved on to other relationships. The trick is to find one that doesn't need fixed or at least doesn't need you to do it.
I don't know nothin' for sure but I've lived a lot and am willing to bet on some things.

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"Good" is the worst enemy of "Great".

Here's a definite:

If any woman has any baggage whatsoever, have your way with her, and leave. You don't need baggage.

If she has baggage while dating, imagine what it would be like once she "has" you.

No thanks.

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