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At what age did you get married or WOULD you have got married?
So now that I am 28, I find it harder to date. A lot of women my age are either:
1- already married 2- divorced 3- have kids 4- lost there looks, weight, crows feet, etc. (physical stuff) 5- been screwed over by players, lied to, strung along, biological clock, etc. (emotional stuff) Or a combination of the above. I know some of the stuff seems shallow, but its all a consideration. Any OG's like to comment? Did you date or marry someone younger? The reason I ask is because I can't imagine the dating scene getting better as I get older. |
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I can't remember. Could somebody bring my gruel?
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Opps I forgot---
6- they are career women (i.e. just graduated from grad school, med school, law school) and JUST starting there careers. They are in student loan debt and just starting there careers. I understand too and dont blame them or anything. But there is that category late twenties women also fit in. |
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You have a few options 1. is the career women...they have proven they can get their ***** together and are generally very smart. 2. Go for a younger woman...I am 27 my wife is 24...I had the same problem no women my own age that I wanted to date 3. Make some compromises find a woman who might be 1 or 2 (but not crows feet) of the first 5 things you listed and you like her so much that you don't care.
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As we get older our options change. If we keep the same goals as we have in our youth then of course, the chances of attaining the youthful goals decrease.
Sometimes wisdom comes with age and sometimes it doesn't. To me, few things are more tragicomic than an older guy acting like he's still a kid. It's most apparent when the older guy has money, but that's only because money enables stupidity and childishness like no other tool. |
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Met her at 27 and she was 23, and we got married when I was 30. Go younger!
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At 28, I knew the list of marriage worthy sane women in my list was running out so settled for the best of the lot, thankfully she accepted and I have no regrets ever since.
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28-30 is the ideal age to settle down. Unfortunately, most people these days get married too young which results in your list 1-5... As you get older, the pickings are not slimmer because there are more women moving into that marriable/dateable age range.
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Married at age 20 and our two boys and us all got to grow up together. Been married to the same wonderful gal for 43 years and would not change a thing if I could. I am extremely lucky.
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Settled!!! Settled!!! Is there any way to get in deeper trouble than to suggest that your wife was anything other than the very embodiment of all your earthly desires? I was 35 before I found the right girl, who happens to be 5 years younger. I lived a very mobile life, and met and dated many women. A lifestyle that I was loathe to give up. But after about 8 months dating my wife, I started to envision life with a family and the joys that would bring. Now we have three kids and I wouldn't trade for anything. When you meet the right girl, it will sneak right up on you. You'll start wondering what she will look like in 20 years, or what your kids will be like. Don't rush it. But by the time you're 28, it's time to look outside of the bars and nightclubs.
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I was 22, wife was 18. That was 33 yrs ago and in an entirely different universe. My brother-in-law's mom married at 13.
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nothing wrong with crows feet....
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When you are younger you know what you want When your older you know what you like.
To many times romances as younger adults each party is trying to please the other (not being their self). Early into marriage the couple falls back into being the person they really are - and that sometimes is not acceptable to the other spouse. Age or Maturity bring together a more stabilized relationship as most adults get out of the head game business as they grow older.
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I was 42 and my wife 40. I dated a lot over the years but never allowed myself to settle for the wrong woman. I always felt that I would know when I met the right woman. I had no problem keeping a relationship but never dated simply for the fun of it or strung a woman along with the "promise" of an impending engagement.
My wife and I began dating in July '06. I knew she was the one only two months later and proposed two months after that. We're both very happy we waited to meet each other. No regrets! PS I had several people tell me that marrying later in life is very difficult because you've lived your own way for so long that you no longer can compromise enough for a successful marriage. That's bunk. As long as you're mature about it there's no problem at all.
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first time married at 35, to a woman 12 years younger. I came to my senses 5 years after that, and after a couple of years dating, reconnected with my true love from university days and we have been together ten years.
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