Get an externship at a local hospital?


Background, I met her through a friend, and became friends with this girl. She has a good-ish head on her shoulders. She is my age (24), and has a kid. Had a wakeup call being a single parent that screwed around, and decided to go school. Fast forward to now, and shes having a hard time finding an externship after going through a few years of school to become a nurse.


Talked to a friends dad (who is chief of surgery at a local hospital), and found out that his hospital has an externship program, and he could "help" her get into the program.


But I am having a dilemma. Should I help her out, and possibly risk my friendship with my friend and his father if something happens, or just let it be, and let her try to find something...

Part of me wants to be the nice guy and help her out, but part of me just wants to let it "be"...


Opinions?

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it's automatic.

What is an externship?

Anytime you can help someone better themselves then you should do it. It is up to them to make it work out.

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Shorter version of an internship. More of an "academic coursework" than an actual short term job.


The externship program in question is only 2-3 months instead of the 6-12 months, and instead of pay, you are given 100% academic credit/units. (slave labor, lol!)

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it's automatic.

Aklim, you're all teed up.

Agreed. Helping others, especially with no expectation of anything in return is a very good thing.

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You need some evidence of her ability to perform the work before making the recommendation.

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How's she look is the better questions?

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Were she capable, and or qualified to get an externship.......then, she WOULD be able to procure one on her own. No? If not, WHY not?

Huh? Where are aklim's posts on this thread?

Everyone has networks...Use yours to point her in a direction. It's called getting a foot int he door. It's up to her to get the rest of her body in that door.

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I think I would talk to your friend's dad and explain the nature of your relationship to the girl. Let him know that you are not in a position to evaluate her skills or personality.

Let him evaluate her in those areas and make his own determination as to whether she is a suitable candidate for the externship.

As long as you are only making a connection, not providing a referral, then you should be insulated from any blow back if she doesn't work out.

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This is one point where I strongly disagree. You're trying to take the middle of the road............point her in the direction of the externship but without any recommendation to the person who will make the decision.

If you cannot make an unqualified recommendation and get her the position, then back away and say nothing.

It's an either/or proposition. No middle ground here. The reason is simple. If it doesn't work out, you compromise your position with the friend's dad, whether you make a "recommendation" or not.

So, be sure that she's going to come through..............

I say it's not about friendship, it's about talent and conscientiousness.

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If someone you love needed surgery would you want this woman attending?

Try to be objective and not let your feelings affect your decision. A substantial percentage of nursing students are young single mothers.

I would help her out. Helping someone is it's own reward. You never know, she might be able to return the favor one day.

While you are in the helping mode, can you help me with my bills?

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Yup......

That's basically what I was asking IWROCK too.....


Helping is one thing - but doing so, must be based on facts. Without knowing what those facts are? No, not a chance I lay my reputation on-the-line, for anybody. Which, I believe is what is at stake here or any similar situation - 'reputation/credibility' - 'friends' or not.