Vent, indeed.

Getting all sorts of passive aggresive b%#(@ed out by FIL type for trying to keep said FIL type alive - NOT on my playlist for tonight.

So, here I sit, pausing and breathing and trying to recompose.

Sigh.

Thanks for listening.

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1961 220b: first project car - sold.
2000 CLK 430: first modern Benz - sold.
2001 CLK 55: OMG the torque!!! - sold
1972 280SE 4.5: Baby Gustav
1991 300TE 4Matic: Gretel the Snow Bunny - sold
1978 300SD: Katz the Free Man - given away
1980 Redhead: Darling Wife

You are a blessed person for your efforts on his part. Too bad he cannot appreciate your efforts as they deserve to be appreciated. Come here and vent anytime.

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..I also have a 427 Cobra replica with an aluminum chassis.

Having been down this road a few times here is some advice that is worth exactly what you paid for it. If he is saying things like "I just want to lay down, go to sleep and never wake up", take him at his word, the man does not want to go on with life. Nothing you say, no doctor you take him to or book you give him to read will change his mind, he has made the decision to GIVE UP and DIE.

Living is tough and it takes a tough man or woman to get up every day and face the music. There are those, however, who do not want to go forward with this life and want to die in peace. The best you can do is to be there and hold his hand when he passes this earth.

Dying is easy, living is difficult.

Urg. Sorry.

@Husky: My impression is that his FIL is not looking to die but rather do way too much.

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1982 300SD -- 211k, Texas car, tranny issues ____ 1979 240D 4-speed 234k -- turbo and tuned IP, third world taxi hot rod

2 Samuel 12:13: "David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord.” And Nathan said to David, “The Lord also has put away your sin; you shall not die."

Excellent advise.

When someone decides that is where they want to be, my experience with those situations is that the end is near. Be it weeks or months ~ the end is certainly near.

Agreed. This sounds like my paternal grandfather, who went from more or less okay to dead in a relatively short period of time. There was never an autopsy, so his cause of death was never determined for sure. This happened when I was about three or four, so all I remember of it was that Pop moved in with us briefly and didn't look very steady. I remember him slowly eating a bowl of oatmeal with a look that I would now describe as not quite knowing what was going on and not being happy about it. Then no more Pop. From stories my mom told later, his mind had taken a sudden turn for the worse, and he did things much like Jim has told us about his FIL. Pop didn't seem to know that he wasn't right, and was trying to continue living as he had before. I believe what happened was a series of small strokes that culminated in his passing.

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83 300D Turbo with manual conversion, early W126 vented front rotors and H4 headlights 400,xxx miles
08 Suzuki GSX-R600 M4 Slip-on 22,xxx miles
88 Jaguar XJS V12 94,xxx miles. Work in progress.

Sorry to hear about it Jim. Peace bro.

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Caregivers need support, that's a fact.

Stop
Breathe
Walk away
Vent

That's good advice for any number of things.

I wish you the best, Jim. Hopefully you can recharge enough before the next go-round.

Sheesh! Nothing to add other than the advice you already gave yourself, at least legally.

Vent away, my friend!

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'06 Chevy Tahoe Z71 (for the wife & 4 kids, current mule) '03 Honda Odyssey (son #1's ride, reluctantly) '99 GMC Suburban (255K+ miles, semi-retired mule) 21' SeaRay Seville (summer escape pod)

Jim, with everything I have seen you deal with over the past few years my friend, you are to be commended for your efforts and selfless acts of kindness.

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2012 SLK 350
1987 420 SEL

Thanks to all for your advice - and a deeply humbled thank you for the kind words. Heaven knows I ain't no saint, and that I'm just making this up as I go. Having the steady hand of an amazing woman makes all the difference in the world.

Ed doesn't want to be done. He says it, now and again, when he is feeling neglected. He's been using the sentiment as a weapon for 5 years.

He gets mean, very rarely, when he is scared.

He gets scared, pretty often, because stuff doesn't work the way it used to.

He does REALLY F'N STUPID STUFF (like trying to burn the house down) because he simply isn't capable of doing better. There is no malice. There is no discontent. There is no anger. There is just - broken.

Every now and then I forget to give him each and every ounce of benefit of the doubt, and I need to step back and reset the baseline.

Y'all help with that. Having a place to scream into the void without worrying about the consequences is of great value to me.

So, Wayne et al. Please don't kill OD. It matters to me. It has kept me connected to this place, this community - at times when I needed something other than advice on how to keep the 3 old benzes in my driveway alive.

Because OD is here, I will ALWAYS look to Pelican first for parts.

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1961 220b: first project car - sold.
2000 CLK 430: first modern Benz - sold.
2001 CLK 55: OMG the torque!!! - sold
1972 280SE 4.5: Baby Gustav
1991 300TE 4Matic: Gretel the Snow Bunny - sold
1978 300SD: Katz the Free Man - given away
1980 Redhead: Darling Wife

Hang in there my friend, you are truly a remarkable sort. Wish more people displayed the kindness and selflessness you do. The world would be a far better place.

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1983 300SD - 305000
1984 Toyota Landcruiser - 190000
1994 GMC Jimmy - 203000

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