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Old 01-31-2015, 03:38 PM
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Damn funerals

Attended the funeral for the 23yr old son of a friend of mine today. Very tough. It's hard to imagine a tougher loss than a child in his prime. Child died in a snowboarding accident. Fell into a hole around a tree head first and suffocated. Ski patrol found him dead but performed CPR and got a heartbeat. After a week on life support in the ICU parent's had to decide to pull the plug. I think my friend blames himself because the son had taken a year off between his junior and senior year of college to be a snowboard bum. My friend was unsuccessful in talking his son out of it. He felt bad about that even before the accident. The weight is heavy I suspect.

Mother was laid off from her job two hours before her son died.

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Old 01-31-2015, 04:19 PM
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Kids funerals are the saddest. There is always real anguish. When an old person goes its not nearly so bad. It is the expected order of life. We always say they're going a better place and so forth but when someone dies with their life ahead of them it is very very tough.

As parents it is what we all fear.
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Old 01-31-2015, 04:29 PM
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What a coincidence. Just received word that a classmate I knew from grade school (now 62 yrs. old) was taken off life-support earlier this morning. He met his fate from a head injury suffered by falling down drunk in a bar he had been inhabiting almost daily for many, many years. Hospital report said that he had consumed 22 - 25 oz. of alcohol in his bloodstream. He had been enduring a life living in his Mother's basement after both a failed marriage and failed practicing as a lawyer years before. I wish I'd of taken the year off to ski Utah and Colorado after high school graduation, rather than plow into college for several years of toil. The snowboarder died while doing something he loved I suspect. Too bad it ended this way though.
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Old 02-01-2015, 07:09 AM
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A friend of mine lost his son to a drunk driver who was 3 time loser. It destroyed his wife and wrecked his marriage. Nelson went on a crusade, ran for the State Ass'y. and was instrumental in passing legislation to combat DUIs & repeat offenders.

The night of his son' viewing, the home stayed open to well past midnight with mostly teenage mourners. Death to teenagers is a concept foreign to them.

The hate is still there, and it may never leave. Like the huge charcoal-black tattoo of his son's face that stretches around Nelson Albano's deltoid, it can be covered with a sleeve but never rubbed away.

Living Legacies: Loss of a son leads Nelson Albano on a quest for justice through "Michael's Law" - pressofAtlanticCity.com: Site
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Old 02-01-2015, 10:53 AM
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So sad. Way too soon. Thoughts, prayers and condolences to your friend and his family.
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Old 02-01-2015, 01:06 PM
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Losing a kid is something I can't bear to think about. How awful.
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Old 02-01-2015, 03:02 PM
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I have heard of accidents like this before. Lives duration sometimes is just a matter of circumstance. Nobody likes to see young people perish. I too think it is because it is well out of the natural order of things as mentioned in an earlier post. Still it happens.

I was fortunate to survive a few things in my youth. A couple of them could easily have been terminal. The problem of being seventy three is you see even a fifty year old expiring as being a younger person.

Seventy three is not bad incidentally if you have your health and are still actively trucking along. My son in law told me just the other day that there are thirty and forty year olds that cannot do what you do still. I guess I was never smart enough to slow down. Still I enjoy doing what I do.

I also believe it has had some effect at slowing the mental aging process as well. I for example do not feel old at all yet but obviously I am.

Two good women would tucker me right out I suspect. I just cannot prove it unfortunately.
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Old 02-01-2015, 03:28 PM
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One, actually...
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One, actually...
Maybe only half a one? Totally subjective anyways.
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Old 02-01-2015, 10:38 PM
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I was never interested in three ways. Check with Aklim for that.
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Old 02-02-2015, 12:08 AM
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My friend's daughter hasn't yet been born but she was diagnosed with a rare disorder (1 in 4000) around 4 months into the pregnancy. I forgot what it's called, but her kidneys did not develop hence no amniotic fluid, she had an enlarged heart. Doctors told them she would very small chance of surviving. They made the very hard decision to have induced labor at 6 months, and when she finally arrived she only survived a few minutes before passing away.

Her cremation was originally Friday, but it was moved to today (or yesterday).

For a brief moment, they had a daughter. Their 7 year old son keeps asking, "Maybe she'll wake up again?" and, "Where did she go?"

Edit: It was "Potter Sequence".

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Old 02-02-2015, 04:11 AM
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There's an old tale in the Zen tradition about a master who was invited to a wedding to give his blessing. When it was his time he said:

"Grandfather die, father die, son die."

The guests were outraged, 'how could you bring up such a morbid thing at a wedding?'

He said, 'oh but it's a great tragedy when a son dies before his father. The natural order is a blessing.'

At which they all bowed.
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Old 02-02-2015, 08:07 AM
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One, actually...
"I'm not as good as I once was, but I'm as good once as I ever was."
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Old 02-02-2015, 08:15 PM
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I was never interested in three ways. Check with Aklim for that.
Tom I never was in that situation nor was it ever offered. A result of my sheltered life I suppose.

At least it might revive the old routine Laurel and Hardy did many times. That was the active discussion of who is on first.

I have an admission as well. I won the hand of my wife but truthfully it was other parts that seemingly drew my interest more. I guessed you get the hand and other parts as a package deal.
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Old 02-02-2015, 10:14 PM
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Tom I never was in that situation nor was it ever offered. A result of my sheltered life I suppose.

At least it might revive the old routine Laurel and Hardy did many times. That was the active discussion of who is on first.

I have an admission as well. I won the hand of my wife but truthfully it was other parts that seemingly drew my interest more. I guessed you get the hand and other parts as a package deal.
I'm not touching that!

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