Well ;

Sooner or later it had to happen, SWMBO decided to dissolve her previous marriage and to - day she got a text from the court saying it's done & she's free, she also got a vpoice mail from her long gone ex calling her f**king b*tch and so on, kinda odd as we occasionally see him and his new girlfriend having breakfast where we like to eat.....

The side Women were why she gave up on him and went off with me in the first place .

Now who knows what'll happen ~ I have no intention of getting married again .

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-Nate
1982 240D 408,XXX miles
Ignorance is the mother of suspicion and fear is the father

I did then what I knew how to do ~ now that I know better I do better

Hopefully then she still feels the same way as well. Actually the formality is just that today. Legal obligations and a variety of similar things go into effect not too long after living together. So you are just unformally married now for most legal purposes. The formal divorce rate is and has been high in the north American society for a long time now. About the only reason it may not have increased or even has decreased. There are a lot more of what were called common law situations than ever today.

Something kind of sad was a statistic I read years ago. That many older couples do not get divorced or separated as they do not want to divide the asset base.

One of our daughters got divorced after ten years. The house and everything were paid for. They had no children and the assets where divided fairly.

Yet she went for and got alimony. I was not that happy about that and told her so. Telling her that was in my mind an unreasonable load on him. Women can be vindicative I know. Of course her just living common law all these years later. He is still on the alimony hook. You can attempt to rectify the situation through court. The problem is that far too many attempts just land up with the person paying even more alimony. When we as her parents are dead she will receive a smaller portion of the estate than would have been otherwise. As a couple we believe in fairness and thought we had developed that in our children. She disappointed us with what she did.

Yes to all your comments .

When I got divorced (she left me) the house was way under water so she signed off on it, I'm still there....

My Sweet laughed about her ex's comments, she's been over him since before I met her, a good thing .

She kept laughing about his response all night and into this morning .

It can go either way, I was very lucky in that my ex who'd made my and our son's lives a misery, said 'you've been a good husband and provider, I just want out' ~ so I began child support before she was moved out, never miss a payment and paid even when he came to live with me .

I'm keenly aware of how badly it can go having seen many awful failures .


Your daughter sounds very typical ~ they get alimony they don't deserve and put off getting re married as long as possible if not forever .

I'd not do that and had to let one very nice very rich Lady go even though she pushed hard for me to marry her and no longer need to work, just give her a child or two, she seemed to think I'm good breeding stock plus she was one of those who really clicked between the sheets, I miss her still but no more kids for me and I don't plan to get married again either no matter how much money she brings to the table .

There was a Dick VanDyke comedy about divorce in the 1960's.....

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-Nate
1982 240D 408,XXX miles
Ignorance is the mother of suspicion and fear is the father

I did then what I knew how to do ~ now that I know better I do better

The ass, her ex, showed his true colors. Dip ****s like that can never figure out that it’s not all about them, that women don’t exist to serve them.

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1986 300SDL, 362K
1984 300D, 138K

Pretty much yes .

My son asks me why I'm nt bitter towards his mother like he is, I don't see the point ~ she married me, gave me him and after nearly fifteen years of crazy, left, leaving me alone for the most part so why should I waste time being angry with her ? .

Guess who's 'phone rings first every time she crashed another husband / boyfriend or has other problems ? .

I remember my Sweet's ex calling me to threaten me and I said "you're wasting you time talking to me, why not go tell her you're sorry and ask for another chance, she's been with you for twenty years, I'm new on the scene, think before you act because only she can make me leave, you're not in my big picture" .

There was more but you get the idea, if you saw a $100 bill just lying there unwanted, you'd pick it up, right ? .

@ 76 Y.O. she's still cute, sassy and lots of fun to be with, I can't imaging turning my back on this good fortune .

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-Nate
1982 240D 408,XXX miles
Ignorance is the mother of suspicion and fear is the father

I did then what I knew how to do ~ now that I know better I do better

Dip ****s of all stripes are always looking for someone else to blame. They don’t get that they are the author of their misery or happiness. Not referring to your son, rather your sweetie’s ex.

I have had difficulty with blaming my parents for this or that. Ultimately I step back and consider the millions of alternatives on display in the world. I actually did quite well in the parental sweepstakes.

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1986 300SDL, 362K
1984 300D, 138K

Good to hear you did well .

I won the genetic lotto with my son ~ he's 'healthy as a horse' as well as good looking and clever, from his mother I'm sure .

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-Nate
1982 240D 408,XXX miles
Ignorance is the mother of suspicion and fear is the father

I did then what I knew how to do ~ now that I know better I do better

Bingo!

3 years ago my Wife said she wanted a divorce. And, the House was paid off by me before the marriage. At that time if we divided everything we would have both ended up renting which would have been a major drain on funds. Wen ended up being separated.

Separated turned out to be a good thing because my wife barrowed a lot of money and sent it off to a sick relative and ended up filing chapter 13 which she is currently paying off. In researching the chapter 13 I found out that the House I paid off is totally mine and the House In inherited when Mom passed is also mine.

Because the Houses were mine the Chapter 13 did not go after them and the court accepted our separation. So my wife is stuck having to pay for her own loans.

After 20 years or so lots of couples find the magic is gone from their relationship.

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I know I was happy when my Parents told me they were getting a divorce (I was 16). Living in a war zone is too nerve racking.

It was clear to me when I was a little kid that there personalities opposed each other daily. I don't see how my parents ever got together to begin with.

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84 300D, 82 Volvo 244Gl Diesel

One of the best days of my life was when the first wife told me she had filed for divorce and I needed to get my chit and get out. I was gone within an hour.

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Jim

Glad to hear there's some good coming from divorces .

I was happy to get married, pleased then she gave me our son and confuddled when she decided to leave and test the greener grass elsewhere, after a year I realized she'd given me yet another incredible gift ~

I don't miss my ex wife one bit, she's still out there trolling the waters .

Kudos to not taking a bath on the house ! .

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-Nate
1982 240D 408,XXX miles
Ignorance is the mother of suspicion and fear is the father

I did then what I knew how to do ~ now that I know better I do better

My first wife got tired of being married so we split. We have a wonderful daughter.

My second wife is a jewel. Four kids together now 14 grandchildren. We went over to my oldest grandchild's graduation celebration. The ex was there. It went fine. I did not talk with her any more than necessary. We shared a few laughs about old times. I am very glad I am not married to her anymore. Its been about 20 years since I have seen her (at her dad's funeral.)

She had two more failed marriages and presently is living with her mom and her other daughter in a duplex owned by the Grandmother who is 95 now and still chugging along.

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..I also have a 427 Cobra replica with an aluminum chassis.

A friend of mine was having trouble with his wife. For three years after ten years of marriage.

Counseling didn't work. She would not go.

He was telling me one day he received a letter from his business manager that he was now worth four million. So I told him he could pay for lunch.

About a week later he came home and found divorce papers all ready for him to sign. His wife would walk out with 1.5 million. He saw that as a half million savings (this was in Texas, a community property state) so he signed off. She was happy until she found out she had left money on the table.

By then it was too late. But she will get half his ranch when he dies. She is upset about the fact that his father lived to be 96, but a girl can dream, can't she?

Yes, having raised up good children helps a lot .

The ex texted me last month and is apparently still pissed off about my love of vehicles ~ she used to complain endlessly about that and ignored the fact that almost all of her friends and work mates had drunkards who screwed around endlessly.....

She actually said "better that than you loving your Motocycle more than you love me" (I didn't but whatever) .

Some people just don't know how to enjoy life no matter how good it might be .

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-Nate
1982 240D 408,XXX miles
Ignorance is the mother of suspicion and fear is the father

I did then what I knew how to do ~ now that I know better I do better