I coudn't stand the thought of being involved with my ex after she had been with someone else. Evertime you think of having any kind of relationship with her, platonic or otherwise, think back to when she dumped you, and then picture her letting her "boyfriend" lay the wood to her, that should change your mind real quick. Unless that's what your into. LOL

I just had this conversation with a good frind of mind and the advice was the same. He didn't like my advice, said I was too harsh and blunt. HE told me 3 weeks later that I was right.

Take it for what it's worth.

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Yip and even if you think you can put into the back of your mind it will haunt you till the end of time she forgets to call, is late from work, goes out with friends ect ect ect.

And the issue isn't him liking her its her "renewed" feelings for him when those feeling are usually just to piss off the other girl.

It seems that mostly everyone has the same opinion.

What was that Keynes wrote:

"It is not hard to teach people new things it is making them forget the old...." (Something to this extent)

Now what I wrote about still being friends with an ex of mine, mind you that first we did not talk for at least 6 months. We may have seen each other at the time in the same social gathering places but we would only be cordial say hello. Also mind you, that at the time we were young and as I said at that age how serious can you really take a relationship?

As for friendship, I believe that you can take it seroiusly. Now my 4-5 best friends in my life are my friends from that age and even before. We may not live close to each other but we communicate regularly and try to see each other for a few days at least every 18 months.

Iggy

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2006 - Suzuki Gran Vitara (2.0 L fully equipped) Like this car so far except for trying to put on the seatbelt.
1988 - 190e - 2.3L - 172K miles (It now belongs to the exwife)
1999 - Chevy Blazer LS Fully Equiped - killed it June 2006
2001 - Honda Civic EX - 68K miles (sold June 2004)
1963 - 220S - Dual Carb 6 cyl. (sold)
1994 - Yamaha WaveRaider (fun to ride)

eggzaktly! get your head straightened out before talking to her again. Ok, so you started contacting her, you may miss her etc... dude there are many fish in the sea. there's bound to be a bigger/better one there for you.
If you need to finish off the current GF do it but do it for the right reasons.

It has never worked out for me when I wanted to remain friends. When I didn't care they were my best "buds."

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RedMeat cartoon

an update to you guys.

i told my current one. and she was totally cool with it. just not me hanging out with her alone (while i don't want to anyways) she still says she doesn't like her.

when did the girls get so understandable?

anyways i was freaking out. so yeah.

BTW. in a distance future i might regret not taking your guys advices. but i am young and dumb. so i will learn the hard way.

thanks you all for replying.

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1989 300TE 285K - traded in '12
1984 300SD 186K - Sold in 08
1978 300SD 330K - Died in 05

It's nice if your current GF is cool with it. But you're still not out of the woods.. Actually far from.

What strikes me right in the face, is what she wrote in her blog!
Think about it.. Why would your ex-GF write all that stuff in her blog? What would be the point of that -other than having you come running back like a little wet dog, despite the fact that you now have a new GF.
The only point would be to prove that she still got the power to do so!

Your ex is propably a very nice girl, and could propably also be a great friend whom you could share your hobbies with. But.. -and trust me on this one! -She can't deal with the fact that you have got a new GF. -A replacement for her.. And she WILL cause trouble for your relationship with your new GF.

Of course there is exceptions..
I'm enjoying the priviledge of having great friendships with several of my ex'es. But only because none of them has ever been intrusive in any way to my new relationships.
A couple of them has actually become best friends. And we all see eachother regularly.
I'ts pretty cool going to a club with 3 of 'your' girls hanging on to you, and all of them looking dangerously hot!

Freestyler

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'86 300E optically converted to '95 E300 (Sold)
-Blauschwarz on silver
-Black leather
-17" AMG & 15" AMG for winter

Well you did one good thing by telling her, your likely in for the best sex of your relationship for a little while. They will do anything to out do the other.

If you really care anything about your current gf you would not be interested in having anything to do with the ex.

What the hell is a blog?

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weB LOG.

It's where you put evidence for the future trial out for everyone in the world to read.

Ken300D

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1984 300SD at 217K miles
1987 300D at 370K miles

Now were gettin somewhere!

The womentree they compete and you win!

This line is very confusing. Would you please put in something like 'current gf is ok, ex-gf is not bla bla bla'.

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Warren

Currently 1965 220Sb, 2002 FORD Crown Vic Police Interceptor

Had 1965 220SEb, 1967 230S, 280SE 4.5, 300SE (W126), 420SEL

ENTER > = (HP RPN)

Not part of the in-crowd since 1952.

Of course, always hope for the best case scenerio.

Speaking from far too many years of misjudgement and mistakes of epic proportion:

I think that you still have feelings beyond friendship for the ex, and you're gonna do something about it no matter what. Can't get it out your mind. That will eventually screw it up with the current GF, despite how nice she's talking now.

And what's in store you? You get to win back a woman who cheats. Not just on you, but also on her current BF! Great prize, that.

Maybe neither is the one for you. These questions are in your mind for a reason.

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2008 Subaru Outback
2009 Subaru Forester

i am happy with the current one. and the old one was a BAD GF. and not so good in the bed. but anyways thats not the point.

I also thought a little competition in their her head would be nice. but ofcourse i don't cheat. in fact i trust them too much which is why my ex cheated on me anyways.

the fact is i kinda got tired of being mad, and the awkward moments in public. i really want to be civilized and talk and be normal again rather than having to leave the room when she comes in.

BTW certain Blogs can bemade for only certain members to see. so it is not such a public thing. i have hears stuff from certain friends of "ours". welp i guess i am happy right now.

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1989 300TE 285K - traded in '12
1984 300SD 186K - Sold in 08
1978 300SD 330K - Died in 05

Yip, if you don't you'll regret it. There are many that I didn't hit one more time, now it's just a fantasy.