I am, and had a date for breakfast this morning, the third woman I've dated in the past four weeks.

As usual, it was hard to find the words to say NO! NO WAY!

The on line dating thing is a new concept to me, but I thought it worth trying. The way I had going about finding dates before was doing the bar scene and dance joints, but I felt there must be a better way.....sooo I'm giving this a shot.

I just contacted 2 more and will see!

It's not easy, and it can cost you a lot of money, so I'm trying to keep it to coffee and muffins for a first date........dinner or lunch will run you $50 or $75
bucks, so far, I've spent about $150 on four dates......only to say NO! Gotta be a better way!

I know 4 couples, 4!, who met online. It took them all lots of patience to sort through the weeds. Women especially have to be very careful because of some strange and predatory men out there. But they say honesty up-front saves a lot of trouble later.

BTW, how's Stefano's love life, also somewhat online, going? Any word?

It just occurred to me that the problem with Stefano's love life is his name. Stefano. It's too ethnic and Old Europe sounding.

What about Steven? Or rather, Steve! Steve sounds like a chick magnet.

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1973 280SE 4.5, 170,000 miles. 568 Signal Red, Black MB Tex. "The Red Baron".

I don't know. Stefano in a $2,000 Italian silk suit, expensive hat, big rings, and a black w126 would probably work wonders.

"Him? He works for my father. His name is Luca Brasi".

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[B]I don't know. Stefano in a $2,000 Italian silk suit, expensive hat, big rings, and a black w126 would probably work wonders.[/B]

LMAO!!!!!!!!

If I pay compliments to the poor lad he's going to get "beat up" by you guys... but... from a female who has known him for a few years now, I can vouch that he's quite a guy and I honestly wish there were a few clones of him out there in the world!!!

Yeah, that name sort of is a problem... My son calls him "Mr. Stef-o the skettio"....

I've done this on and off for three years, and had a couple of worthwhile relationships come from them, but yes, you sort through a lot of chaff before finding any wheat. I'm still sort of waiting for 'the right one' to come along, but not doing the online dating thing now because it does take a fair amount of time to follow through with correspondence and set up those 'first screening' meetings, and my time and priorities have gone in other directions. I think it's a good tool to use, though. Where else can adults meet eachother? Bars? Work? The grocery store? Not in the sorts of quantities or with the sorts of prescreening you can do through a personals service.

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My wife would get real upset if I did that..............so I would have to say no experience in this.

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"He who fights with monsters might take care lest he thereby become a monster. And if you gaze for long into an abyss, the abyss gazes also into you." - Friedrich Nietzsche

I'll be giving it a try really soon.

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ENTER > = (HP RPN)

Not part of the in-crowd since 1952.

Dating is cruel,elemental and expensive.

The following is what I favour,although my tastes incline to the voluptuous..http://www.amberandspice.com/_notes/AmberBBW.htm

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I'm Blind.....OH I'm blind................

Not into beefy women.........I like them on the thin side. Like my wife.

4'11" 90 lbs...............and in very good physical condition.

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1971 280SE W108
1979 300SD W116
1983 300D W123
1975 Ironhead Sportster chopper
1987 GMC 3/4 ton 4X4 Diesel
1989 Honda Civic (Heavily modified)
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Section 609 MVAC Certified
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"He who fights with monsters might take care lest he thereby become a monster. And if you gaze for long into an abyss, the abyss gazes also into you." - Friedrich Nietzsche

More opinions on the bottom, but before you totally tune out this post =)

1) arent there free personal sites ? craigslist ? Yahoo used to have personals (I did this a loooooong time ago...). I can't understand it being costly ? are you using subscription-based services ? why does breakfast (breffas) cost $50 ?. I wouldnt be shy about asking a woman to split the bill- this is 2005, not 1955. And if you are looking for a woman that emulates those of 1955 (stay at home mom, family values...) dont expect her to hang out online...If Donna Reed were my age (30) and looking her computer would have a basic dialup account (or something like netzero!), she wouldnt have the patience to surf on diallup (I know, I do it at home regularly =)

How do you spend $50 on breakfast ?



-IMHO...
I figured that if someone was "looking", then they were setting yourself up to find "Mrs. Wrong". I thought that if you spent your time satisfying yourself (hobbies, church, work, whatever...) then at some point Mrs. right will come along (and find you at your hobby, church or workplace...) and you wouldnt have wasted any time sorting through the chaff.

(note that I am not advocating dating people you work with, but a lot of people meet others at work, conventions, friend of a friend at work...).

But this is easy for me to say, b/c I've left out my whole "God is a large part of this" and "I'm already married" part.

-John

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Husband, Father, sometimes friend =)

So.......ahem......Carleton........do you get to pay the "full rate" or the "reduced rate"??

Actually, there are alot of Donna Reed types online looking for good husbands.

THere are also alot of women scammers.

I did it for a while, I met my wife on line, but she is NOT american. I got really tired of the american women, and quite frankly, I would often reply to their ads with, "as soon as I become superman, I will get back to you", that drew alot of nice replies, they loved my humor, but they were still looking for the perfect MR RIGHT.

But it all depends on what you are looking for and a host of other personal factors.

It can work, if you use it properly, in many ways its very helpful cuz you can screen through alot of the undesirables (for you) right away.

Once again howwever, most of the ameican women I dated via online didnt think their poo poo stunk.

Yo!

There are a few of us NICE, honest and decent girls out there... we have the same issues with you guys! No offense as I'm sure you're probably all cool.... (ok, I'll give ya the benefit of the doubt here before someone throws something at me).

It is just as hard for a June Cleever type (which would be me - very old fashioned, the kind you bring home to mom) to meet a decent guy. I would just like to meet - my best friend.

...Someone who is a gentleman - i.e. honest, down-to-earth, can fix just about anything with duct tape, funny, intelligent, practical with finances - but NOT cheap, heterosexual with no inclinations to joining the priesthood (hey, it's happened more than once for me!) and is chivalrous - i.e. you treat a girl like a lady - open the door, take her hand when getting out of the car, pull the seat out, share your jacket if she's cold, not try to jump her on the first date, etc. I want someone who is happy, fun to be around, is kind towards others and stands for what they believe in.

Not all of us are after your wallet. Yes, we'd like to know you're responsible and you can hold down a decent job, spend and save wisely, etc..... and for pity's sake, if you invite a girl out for a meal - it's only polite to pay for her. That is just courtesy. It goes both ways... but if you put the courtesy out there first you'll probably get it back duofold.

In the same respect, if a girl wants to be treated with respect, she should act like a lady - and not a self centered, whiney, *****y, snotty little ho.

Sliding scale actually.

Since I'm a frequent flier I carry alot of weight there.............

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