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age and number of friends
when i was in junior high i could never understand why my dad had one friend and so did my mom. back then i had so many friends i never knew who to hang out with. as the years went by and i got out of school the nuber dropped. im now only 18, but i work 40+ hours a week. i have one true friend. he lives with me and i consider him my brother. well two actully. my gf counts as one. i have found that even the closest of friends seem to disappear. one of my oldest friends moved out of the neighbor hood and a mile down the road. i see him about once a month. all of the kids that i used to consider friends are still doin drugs and partying all the time. none of them have jobs either. i now understand why my dad has only one friend. has anyone else ever noticed this?
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I know Jeffry Dahlmer had that happen in his social life. He had an appetite for friends.
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I had noticed this with my own dad but hadn't made the connection that it was widespread, but I think you're on to something. Does it mean that now that I'm past 50, my group of friends will slowly reduce to 0 and then begin expanding again as enemies?
How many friends are necessary for a good life and how close (geographically) do they need to be? I had a good friend in college but hadn't seen her in 25 yrs. We hooked up in NYC a few years ago and it was as if no years had passed. Our friendship had been able to survive that long dormancy and despite all the things that had happened to us in the intervening years, they made no difference. Some of those changes were substantial. I had changed from being a minister to being a functional atheist while she had continued on in her role as a minister's wife. It makes me wonder what are the precise psychological/sociological grounds of friendship that seem to transcend apparently fundamental differences.
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Friends come and go, enemies accumulate. Funny how that works.
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You can only split your time so many ways. I have plenty of friends, but I have time for only a couple on any regular basis.
And if you are worried now wait until that GF is a wife and that roommate is a six week old. Also, just because you don't spend any time with people doesn't mean you aren't friends anymore. Just keep in touch and hang out when you can.
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I have a few close friends that I can trust with anything and too many acquaintances that I have trusted as friends and burned me.
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True enough. Plenty of friends when I was 18, down to a trusted few today. Life has a way of constantly testing friendships, only the strongest survive the years.
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Good thread.
My Mom had enlightened me about the same sort of thing, and pointed out the couple of trusted "real" friends, versus the many "acquaintances". That has held true for my wife and I as well...the pool has shrunk down to two...
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Difference in life paths . . .
. . . may account for part of it. I had a good buddy whom I met in junior high; he got me into "Star Trek" fandom, which led to our meeting our first wives and then my second. We hung out together over more than 20 years.
Then he married wife no. 2 and started having children right, left, and down the middle. Now I don't care for children (actually that's a gross understatement). So the last thing I wanted to do was visit a house full of yelling kids, half of whom smelled like used diapers -- and the last thing he was able to do was get away from all that for a while. He kept parroting the Parental Party Line, e.g., "It's the greatest thing I've ever done," "It's all worth it," et cetera ad nauseam . . . but I noticed he took every opportunity to slink away from the hellhole of his home, and smoke a few joints in peace and quiet. He was living on the Gulf Coast when Katrina hit. I haven't been able to locate him, and the chances of his being online are small (with all those rugrats, he couldn't afford a phone, let alone a computer). I hope he's okay. But if I woke up in his life tomorrow, the first thing I'd do is look for a gun to use on myself. Different paths in life, I guess. And the divergence between the paths of parents and non-parents is the biggest of all.
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this fits...
Let me run with you tonight I’ll take you on a moonlight ride There’s someone I used to see But she don’t give a damn for me But let me get to the point, let’s roll another joint And tu rn the radio loud, I’m too alone to be proud You don’t know how it feels You don’t know how it feels to be me People come, people go Some grow young, some grow cold I woke up in between A memory and a dream So let’s get to the point, let’s roll another joint Let’s head on down the road There’s somewhere I gotta go And you don’t know how it feels You don’t know how it feels to be me My old man was born to rock He’s still tryin’ to beat the clock Think of me what you will I got a little space to fill So let’s get to the point, let’s roll another joint Let’s head on down the road There’s somewhere I gotta go And you don’t know how it feels No, you don’t know how it feels to be me --Tom Petty
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It seems like after the school years, people just branch off and focus on different interests. As mentioned above, its really a blessing to have a life-long friend that you can just reconnect with despite the long intervals in between. I have one such friend. I suspect its pretty rare to maintain a friendship from 1st grade thru adulthood.
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...this is why you buy a dog...best friends 'til the very end...
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