Dating "the other woman" - PeachParts Mercedes-Benz Forum

Dee8go · #1 09-25-2006, 11:29 AM

Someone sent me this story this morning and I thought it was pretty good. I hope some of you enjoy it, too.
After 15 years of marriage, I discovered a new way of keeping alive the spark of love. A little while ago I started to go out with another woman. It was really my wife's idea.

"I know that you love her," my wife said one day, taking me by surprise. "But I love YOU," I protested. "I know, but she loved you first AND you also love her AND if it wasn't for her I wouldn't have such a wonderful husband!"

The other woman that my wife wanted me to go out with was my mother, who has been alone for 19 years. The demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her no more than occasionally at best. That first night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie. "What's wrong, are you okay?" she asked.

My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news."I thought that it would be nice to spend some time with you," I responded. "Just the two of us?" She thought about it for a moment, then said, "I would like that very much."

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our "date." She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate my own wedding day. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's. I suddenly saw her as she was years ago when she was the only woman in my life and I was reminded again for the first time in a long time of how beautiful my mother really was.

"I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son. They were so impressed," she said, as she got into the car. "They can't wait to hear about our evening out."

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady as I helped her up the steps, into the restaurant and into her chair. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips and tears filled her eyes.

"I was just remembering when I used to help you into the restaurant and read the menu to you when you were small," she said.

"Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor," I responded.

During the dinner we had an agreeable conversation and even a few laughs - nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, "I can't tell you how very much I enjoyed spending another evening with you," and I agreed. Mom really was a fun and enjoyable "date."

"How was your dinner date?" asked my wife when I got home. "Very nice. I really enjoy the time I've been spending with Mom lately. Much more so than I could have imagined," I answered.

A few days later my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything for her or even say good-by. Some time later I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place my mother and I had last dined. An attached note read:

"My Dear Son, I paid this bill in advance. I was almost sure that I couldn't be there but, nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what our lovely "dates" meant to me. I love you."

At that moment I understood the importance of saying "I LOVE YOU" and showing it, in time. Give your loved ones the time that they deserve. Of all the things you hold dear in life, remember that it was your mother who made it possible for you to be here and have them. Give her the time she deserves, because these things cannot be put off till "some other time."
Dee8go

TX76513 · #2 09-25-2006, 11:36 AM

That's a great story -thanks for sharing.
I used to put this in a company newsletter before Mothers Day each year. Your letter prompted me to look it up again.

A man stopped at a flower shop to order some flowers to be wired to his mother who lived two hundred miles away.
As he got out of his car he noticed a young girl sitting on the curb sobbing.
He asked her what was wrong and she replied, "I wanted to buy a red rose for my mother.
But I only have seventy-five cents, and a rose costs two dollars."
The man smiled and said, "Come on in with me. I'll buy you a rose."
He bought the little girl her rose and ordered his own mother's flowers.
As they were leaving he offered the girl a ride home.
She said, "Yes, please! You can take me to my mother."
She directed him to a cemetery, where she placed the rose on a freshly dug grave.
The man returned to the flower shop, canceled the wire order, picked up a bouquet and drove the two hundred miles to his mother's house.

Dee8go · #3 09-25-2006, 11:42 AM

Yours was pretty good, too, TX. Thanks.

Jim B. · #4 09-25-2006, 02:58 PM

Thanks both of you guys.

G-Benz · #5 09-25-2006, 03:27 PM

Great stories both! I just sent a birthday card to my mom today, so I was already in that mindset...thanks!

Dee8go · #6 09-25-2006, 03:40 PM

So, then you're NOT going to go see her for her birthday. Oh, well, sure, I mean I guess that's just fine . . .

aklim · #7 09-25-2006, 04:12 PM

Best be careful. Somebody might think you and mom are......

Would give new meaning to MILF

BENZ-LGB · #8 09-25-2006, 04:24 PM

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Originally Posted by aklim

Best be careful. Somebody might think you and mom are......

Would give new meaning to MILF

Out of the gutter young man...out of the gutter right now.....

Kuan · #9 09-25-2006, 04:24 PM

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Originally Posted by G-Benz

Great stories both! I just sent a birthday card to my mom today, so I was already in that mindset...thanks!

***** thanks for reminding me!

BENZ-LGB · #10 09-25-2006, 04:27 PM

On a somewhat similar vein.

My daughters and I have regular dinner dates.

Ever since high school I have taken them out on a dinner date. It gives me a chance to spend quality one-on-one time with them. When you have more than one child, they appreciate spending time with Dad (or Mom) when Dad's (or Mom's) attention is focused only on them.

Now that they are all in college, I sometimes get looks from other diners...like, "what's that old man doing with that pretty young girl!"

I think it is funny.

When my son is older, he will also take his Mom out on dinner dates.

Dee8go · #11 09-25-2006, 09:25 PM

I've always taken my daughters out (one at a time) on a date for dinner or the movies or something like that. What a great experience it is. That's what being a dad is all about.

All you have to do is to think back to when you were a kid and remember how much it meant for one of your parents to give you their undivided attention. Doubtless some of us never experienced much of that, but remember how much we wanted it? Well, our kids are no different. Neither are our parents now, I bet.

Larry Delor · #12 09-25-2006, 09:44 PM

Man. What a tearjerker. (thanks for posting that anyway)

#13 09-25-2006, 09:52 PM

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Originally Posted by aklim

Best be careful. Somebody might think you and mom are......

Would give new meaning to MILF

Please, give me a break, and take a cold shower.

BENZ-LGB · #14 09-26-2006, 12:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Dee8go

I've always taken my daughters out (one at a time) on a date for dinner or the movies or something like that. What a great experience it is. That's what being a dad is all about.

All you have to do is to think back to when you were a kid and remember how much it meant for one of your parents to give you their undivided attention. Doubtless some of us never experienced much of that, but remember how much we wanted it? Well, our kids are no different. Neither are our parents now, I bet.

yep....

aklim · #15 09-26-2006, 12:10 AM

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Originally Posted by John Holmes III

Please, give me a break, and take a cold shower.

Don't know about the first part but I just took a cold shower.