OK, here we go...I arrived today in Springfield, MO on a business trip. My one and only daughter who is going to gift me with another grandchild in Nov. is depressed because her mother which happens to be my ex wife of 25 years ago is down and out and can't go to FL to see and help with the grandchild. The ex wants to move to FL to be close and I've been asked to drive the moving truck. I would have to drive it from OK City to Jacksonville, FL. I have no feelings for the woman as it's been a long time. I don't want to see anyone on the street, so I'm thinking of driving the truck to FL at the end of the week and flying back to DC. I have mentioned it to the current wife of 15 years and as you can guess, she isn't thrilled. BTW, I'll be driving the truck and she will leave at a later date in her own car. Whatcha think about this one?

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It all comes down to your relationship with your wife. If you jeopardize it..........it's not worth it.

Only you can make that call.

If you had killed her before the divorce you'd be out by now. Having said that, my concern is this...will being in FL help her inertia or just make it where she can mooch off your daughter and be a burden? Is this an economic issue with the ex, or an emotional/depression issue? I would think long and hard before I got embroiled in this mess.

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While you may not have feelings for your ex-wife, your ex-wife may have a different view. Why is she asking you to drive the truck? Is there someone else who can drive the truck?
I've run wood thru my table saw without a guard. I know it's really dangerous and I'm taking a chance. Your situation is similar.

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Before I got into any truck, I'd bring along a witness or witnesses...a tape recorder and/or camera and some religious entity that can vouch for your pureness and compassion, not your libido...

Hire a few local "manpower" workers to load the truck, then on the other end, hire the local "manpower" crew (via cellphone while you're on the road) and have them there when you arrive...business is getting the truck unloaded and returned, then you're out of there...no worse the wear on your back and no chance to end up in the sack...remember...you're stupid-vising and you have to keep an eye on the crew...

You've done a few things...

#1.) You've kept the line of communications open with your daughter...she may need more help than the ex...and she deserves it...

#2.) The ex is being kept at an arm's reach away from you and you should be able to prove it with tape and personel...

#3.) If you leave at "XX:XX" time and arrive at "XX:XX" time, if you drove straight through, you're able to prove there wasn't any time for "unmarried bliss" and no one is hurt...besides, have #2. "service you" before you leave AND when you get back...that should keep you "straight" and mindfull of the real bed you need to be in...don't dirty that one up...

#4.) Keep the cellphone available at all times and ready for pictures in case there should be an "incident" or "accident" of ANY KIND (Wink-wink-nudge-nudge-Know what I mean? Know what I mean?).

#5.) Have the daughter on site when you arrive, or have the ex at the daughter's place and under her eye so there's no chance for hinkiness to happen or even get started...nothing like kids/grandkids to screw up a rendezvous (whether planned, on your part, or not)...

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Can you take the current wife with you.

Movers are one of the few services I think are really good value. Hopefully they have hired someone to load the truck. They are usually cheap vs the amount of work done.

One of the bigger risks you face is the number of cars you may buy along the way, and then you have the problem of getting them back to your home in Virginia.

(tell your ex you're unavailable)

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Its not worth messing with your current marraige, we are not on this earth long enough to help **everyone**.

What is your current wife concerned about ? you hopping into bed with the ex ? -if thats the case, then this "problem" is just going to come back again later, next time you want to leave town. It sucks that this happens/people feel like this but they do.

I'm guessing the current wife doesnt want you to get involved/on the recieveing end of more flack from the ex (becuase ex's love to do that =) Which is noble of her, but changes the situation a bit- this can be argued around-

I also agree with the "take the wife with you" part - you'll have someone to talk to if possible. and the "hire movers" - I have moved myself the last few times and when someone told me how cheap it was to hire a few dudes (look up "two men and a truck" -type places), I kicked myself for not doing it. And I'm not some rich Mbshopper either (I drive a $2k vw...)

Thats an 18h drive - whoa, 2 days unless you push it straight through....give that some thought too. If you are loading and unloading that that'll take more than 2 days, which is a full weekend and I don't get many of those to myself.

You are fully justified telling your ex "sorry, I have too much going on at home (new life, new people, new obligations) to give 2 or 3 days for you."

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Pig- Why can't your ex drive the truck?

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Yeah, the danger of coming home with additional cars may be your biggest problem.

I agree with whoever it was above who expressed concerns as to your ex's possible sponging off your daughter once she is nearby. Of course, none of us know enough about it to comment on that, but that's what I'd be worried about.

You're a good guy to even be considering doing this, though in my opinion.

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The ex can't drive the truck although she is hiring people to load it. All I have to do is drive to FL and get on a plane back to DC there. Great advice and I agree she's going to sponge of the daughter and create problems there as the son in law hates her. He's deployed at the moment though.

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Ya Think? Lets see now, you will be spending her time with you and your money to do this for someone else that you said means nothing to you. IMO, it is NOT worth it.

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She is already not happy about it when he sounded her out on it. Do you think it will get any better if he actually did it? It might always be a sore point with her or at least will not make her happy. So why do it? What would be in it for him to upset the current wife?

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PP, are you monitoring the forum on your I Phone while you're in your meeting?

I'm laughing, because I'm picturing a room full of people in a meeting and everybody's heads are angled down towards their laps as they type away on the Blackberrys and I Phones . . . .

My daughter told me this morning that in her biology class at VA Tech they have to text their questions to the professor in class and he texts them the answers back. School is way different than it was when I went!

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Seriously PP, for the time, trouble and general aggravation, and with my ability to always be rolled by my daughters, I'd consider paying for the move out of pocket and stay the hell home. (I admit I have no idea how expensive this move would be.)

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