Opinion kids yes or no?
Okay the wife says she wants kids I am still on the fence about it. My question to all you guys out there is if you had to do it over would you have kids? And seriously pros and cons. And GO!!!
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I never felt it was my duty to add to the gene pool, so I opted out and seeing what my friends who have children had to deal with I am glad I opted out especially when the children hit their teens.....
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The wife and I weren't sure either. We decided not to. Actually, she didn't want them and I wasn't positive either way. Sure, it was a nice thought as far as having kids but having seen the work that went in made us decide not to. I mean, you can't simply look at all the good times. There will be plenty of bad times. Some of them may not even be your fault or something you can do. |
My wife and I were 40 when she delivered our first and only kid. We spent plenty of time enjoying ourselves and, basically, being selfish. I thought my life was full before. I had no idea what I was missing.
My mind tends to focus on this metaphor: My life before my kid was like shooting pool before I learned about english. I liked the game and could make shots, but english opened up a whole new world of abilities for me. Our only regret is we waited so long to start. We tried to make another kid, but it just wasn't meant to be. |
It changes every aspect of your life and makes you have different priorities.
If I had it to do over, I'd do it sooner. It's a TON of work, but something that you can't quite explain unless you've been there. I always thought that was BS until I became a parent. Anything with great benefits and rewards, requires great effort. I was scared about having kids, but knew I wanted them. Be prepared to give everything of yourself to make sure they have the best start in life you're capable of giving them. |
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I'd have to agree that people that "Decide not to".....that's basically just a selfish decision. I mean, why give up your own time to someone else? I'm only 22...my wife and I do plan to have children. And we'll be younger than 30 when we do, that is for sure. |
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One thing I wasn't expecting when we decided to have kids, was the way it changed my relationship with my wife. She's been my best friend since years before our marriage, but sharing the miracle of our children's births and watching them develop has brought us even closer.:)
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That's admirable that you and your wife did that Aklim. I'd be afraid to jump into a parenting situation years into the child's development.
Having a child from birth allows you to develop as a parent as the child develops into an individual. On the job training.:thumbsup: |
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Even though I don't have my own kids, I agree with what the others have said about the rewards and trials. Looking back on my own life and that of my friends and family, I've determined that the best age range to get married and/or have kids is around 28-30.
You're old enough to have gotten most of the ya-ya's out of your system and you're still young enough to have the energy to take care of the little ones. I see many of my friends who had kids in their early 20's are quietly (or more vocally) resentful of the loss of freedom during those years. |
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I agree that some people just don't have that in them though. |
Coming from a kid (well more recently being a kid than you guys), it was cool having a stay at home mom (or dad (for you Chad)).
It kept me out of trouble, and always kept me focused (and on track). |
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Even with my dogs, I never cared for the puppy stages. I always wanted them out of it ASAP. I bonded more with my dogs AFTER they grew up and had their own personalities. Just like with a virgin girl, I hate the teaching part. I rather have a grown up girl in her 30s at the very least where she knows what she wants and is able to do things. |
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