I've heard of it before but never quite knew if it's just an expression or an actual experience, or whatever one might call it.

Lately I've just been feeling crappy, depressed even, but not clinically depressed, mind you. I'm not one to talk about being depressed and taking medication as if it were a trendy thing. Anyway, I don't know if it's the cold weather, the blatant merriment I see that seems to just contrast with my life that is making me feel very negative. I don't know. I've heard people refer to the holiday blues as happening to those who are single and not having anyone to share the holiday joys. I'm not sure if that's the case with me. Sure I wouldn't mind snuggling up with someone but I think I've come to the realization that I can't open up to people emotionally and being with someone means having to express myself and reveal who I am. I'm a very private person and I guess I'm one of those people whom you may know but in reality really don't know.

Sometimes I think that my life is sad that I have no one to come home to or that no one to love me, no familial responsibilities. (I don't want to sound full of self-pity here.) Many people my age are married and have families. In fact, many of my friends already have a family, and I sometimes envy them. Perhaps having spent some time with my 2-year-old nephew has really altered my life perspective.

When I last visited OK and reconnected with a childhood friend who now has a large family (six kids!) and a lovely wife, I got the feeling that my friend thought I was living the good life in California simply because many people outside CA think it's the place. I don't think I am though I was a bit conscious of mentioning some of my interests, my schooling, and other things that people normally talk about after a long absence from each other. Looking back now, I think he's the fortunate one. He has his own car business, a home, and a lovely family.

Anyhow, in other news, I'm still very much in love with my dept. head at work. I thought it would go away after all this time. I don't know if it's the feelings of love that has filled my head with delusions, but I sometimes think she might have some feelings for me! It's the vibe you feel...you know? She's a superior, then there's the age difference (methinks maybe 15 years)...it's so hopeless, so pathetic, so juvenile (on my part), and perhaps so wrong, yet this feeling I have is such a human experience that I've sometimes convinced myself that it's so right.

Unless religion is your bag, christmas is simply a kids thing. Do what you can to make xmas special for a kid(s), and you will feel special. My kids are 28 & 31 - small gift for them, so they remember I love them, and then I try to help someone who needs it. Really - you will feel great!

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I can't help you but I find getting out of the house and staying active is a good way to keep the blues away.

I find I get depressed in the winter if I hang around.

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I agree with the the other 2 replies. Get out and do a road trip , help someone out , invite a friend or friends out to dinner, adopt a pet. I believe it would help to get extroverted.

I often buy a car in January or February....

Or march, april may or june....

You get the idea....

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..I also have a 427 Cobra replica with an aluminum chassis.

also watch this video. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-fAGzY9rnaA

Short days = Seasonal Affective Disorder

It certainly gets me down (this last week has been a real challenge)...Kava-Kava helps, so does Bourbon.

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X2. It's the weather I'm telling ya. That's why I go to the Fake-n-Bake or Electric beach during the winter I have to get my dose of vitamin A and D. Exercise and yoga help.

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A private person you may well be. Most of us are.
Nonetheless you have opened up to us and described your insecurities regarding that most elusive and poorly understood human need, a partner.

Don't fall into the common error and use friends, nor anyone else as yardsticks against which to measure yourself which will only perpetuate these self delusional shortcomings you feel, which have no basis in reality.

I'm sure you have a list of accomplishments and interests that many people would envy and perhaps a lot of women would share, It's kinda tough when one chases the unobtainable, but it's certainly not childish, just human.

Social interaction leads to emotional growth and security, I went thru it all myself, same ****. Thanks for sharing.

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Good advice.

But I would add a suggestion that you skip the fantasy with your boss. For multiple reasons. Do that by finding someone else.

It probably happens to a lot more people too.

Dont let it get you down.

Sometimes you just have to force yourself to get out of the house.

I use a sun lamp, dont laugh, it kinda helps.

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I know a woman who used to use a "mood light"
My ex-wife.

My ex used a vibrator

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The grass is always greener, my friend. I haven't even been married for a year and I already loathe going home at night. Starting pre-med night classes was the best thing I ever did.

You probably have Seasonal Affective Disorder. Get outside, go running, do something. It started with me a few days ago when I put Umlaut in the garage and pulled the battery. It started snowing the next day and hasn't stopped. It's 19F outside right now, and a few weeks ago it was 50F. Screw this.

Hey wait, you live in CA, right? Where are you? I was just in Santa Monica a while ago. I rented a Kawasaki KLR650 and threw it around the twisties up in Topanga canyon off PCH1. If there's one cure for the blahs, that's it.

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There's a reason suicide rates go up during the holidays... .

Every year we are force-fed and bombarded with visions of the "perfect holiday experience"...and much of it revolves around connections with friends and family.

Anyone using those lofty standards as a guideline for their own holiday experience is setting themselves up for serious disappointment!!!

I agree with the posts citing benevolent involvement...this is a time for giving, and nothing during the holidays will bring more joy than that!

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