I've got a situation that makes me upset to think about, but I will have to make a decision here in the next few weeks, so I thought I'd share with you Mercedes people and see what you think.

I've got some friends, a guy and a girl and they are planning to get married. I've been friends with the girl since high school, and the guy for almost as long. we've been friends for almost 10 years. I use to be closer friends with the girl, but in the last 3 years I've become closer friends with the guy.

The last 3 months I haven't talked to ether of them. And I'm really not sure why. the girl is prone to overreacting and I'm pretty sure this is part of it. I'm sure I said something along the line that pissed her off.

So about a month ago I started hanging out with a mutual friend I met through facebook. and last week I learned that before we (the mutual friend and I) started hanging out the couple, and another couple I know told her that i was a bigot, and a jerk and not to be trusted.

I'm a little offended by that.

Today in the mail I got the official wedding invite. I'm really not sure what to do. I'm friends with her family, and the way the word the invite, "so and so would like to invite you to there daughters wedding" that really got me thinking that this is bigger then the problems that we are having... but at the same time. I don't want to go if I'm not wanted, and they sent me the invite out of a since of obligation.

The logical thing to do is talk to them, because I'm getting offended by hear-say, but with the girl being prone to overreacting I'm afraid of making this worse then it is. her overacting is what caused this mess to begin with.

I need to RSVP for their wedding, do I say yes I'm coming or no?

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They did not have to ask you. If you want to go share this important moment in their life go. I tend to err on the side of going in a case like this. The problems could be temporary.

Plus, I love weddings! I usually cry too, just a little.

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well, just don't be bigot or jerk at the reception.

Look at it this way you should go for two reasons:

1. You may be reading them the wrong way and they might really want you to come, and are simply not sure why you havn't been around. Just because you hear something 3rd person doesn't mean its true.

2. If it is true and you go, you can drink all their booz and eat all their food.

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the other catch to this is, the wedding is on a Monday, so i have to schedule time off work, and i can't stay and the reception to late because they are getting married on the coast, 4 hours away!!!! So I'll drive there, watch the wedding grab some food and have to leave, asap to get home for work on Tuesday.

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It's pretty simple.

Do you want to go to the wedding and watch these two people exchange vows?

It's a yes or no answer and anything else is irrelevant.

Personally, I can't stand weddings and I don't go..........even if others think I'm obligated.

However, I recently agreed to go to one with the GF........friends of hers........where I know nobody. A capitulation to principles.............

Brian at a wedding, now that should be fun.

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It's going to happen in May............I'm not looking forward to it...........

I hear you, I have a another cousin thats getting married next year, already dreading it. I hate weddings.

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After a half-century of living, I find myself gracefully easing into the role of the graceless curmudgeon: If I want to go - I go. If I don't want to go - I don't. Social conventions? Pffffftttttt.....

When I was your age..........weddings were a blast............all the buffet food you can eat...........and all the alcohol you can drink...........you get the GF to drive.........

However, now that I'm TFO...........I can't drink that much..........and the GF doesn't drive..........so, it's no fun............

Only one thing you can do, just climb up the clock tower and start blastin' away.

That's much less PC today than it was in 1966...

Remember. It's not a wedding until someone Drops their pants!

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