What to do guys and gals?

As a reasonable looking (I have to say that don't I? Rofl) earlyish 30s guy, the few women I would go and say Hi! to usually aren't interested. My closest friend says I'm too 'choosey where women are concerned, but thats a good thing' Rofl.
Anyway the question is this. What should one say after Hi! when you don't care for football or TV soaps (including Dallas. Lol)?

The reason for asking?
I came across (very briefly, barely met in passing) a nice looking, pleasant seeming, intelligent lady recently - pretty much the ideal specification, really, don't you think! - and she has emailed regularly for a month and now wants to 'meet for coffee'.
I'm usually criticised for being 'quiet', although I'm more intellectual and reserved, but look more like a flyhalf rugby player.
The cloud looked at first like it did have a silver lining - with diamonds. Yippee! Then of course I found the gaping black hole - there can only be me that would manage this one. Lol
I came across her when in Lincoln, UK, but was told her funny (as in pleasant, but unusual) accent was from Boston. Foolishly I said, 'Well, 45 minutes drive time, but not too bad.'
'No' she said. 'Boston, Massachusetts.' The heart is sagging at this point! Rofl.
Now, I'm no navigator, but..
A few conversations later she told me: 'If I want to go back for my parents in a couple of years, you would have to be good with that.' and of course she nearly scared me to death with the idle comment 'I want children, at least two.' just a little later.
While quivering in a terrified heap, I'll ask: Should make an effort for this lady or run away quickly? What say you? Lol.

Uh, does she have any money? Do YOU have any money?

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Sounds to me like she's being pretty up front about her aspirations in re; possible partner. You aren't going to change that, and if it's incompatible with your own, give her a pass.

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I say just whip it out and see what happens. Her reaction will pretty much answer your questions.

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Pick whatever snappy little quote suits you best, but the main thing is to go for it. Regretting opportunities not explored is a lousy feeling. If it works out and you move around the world in a few years to raise some kids, just consider it another opportunity.

MV

One thread you're asking if anyone is from Arkansas - and in this one you're saying you've met this girl while in (and presumably still) the United Kingdom?

Just wondering....

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Go out a couple times if it doesnt work out the move on...

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Since this is a car forum just decide if you want to go along for the ride. Your call totally pretty well it seems. Or perhaps just a few test rides.

Means leaving the british isles if you buy the package is a real factor. This whole thing could change your life substantially as well you know.

There are far too many variables to enable sensible suggestions on a forum.

Yeah...if she likes the helicopter move, you're in!!!

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You MUST acknowledge and undertstand these things about women..

Keep them in mind when you go dating.. they may effect your life Forever.


Unless you are willing to go to the USA on a fiancee visa, or are an American citizen & AND are willing to have at least TWO leetle bebitos with her PLUS the attendant risk of divorce and child custody issues with her (50% odds of THAT in the USA!!!! ) then you ought not to continue here.

Sounds like you two are NOT on the same page at this time in your respective lives and dating goals.
Is it true? If yes, maybe you should run away.

There are plenty more fishes in the sea.

Signed,

/s/

Jaquues Costeau.

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Jim B.
You sound like a wise and genial guy (Jim B for President, perhaps?) Lol.
You're right of course and what you say is how I figured it to start with. I'm not messing her around - she's way too nice for that, as am I. Lol.
As you say, she gets a bonus point for being upfront about 'leetle bebitos' and maybe her parents. The US is a lovely place, but my plan was for the UK so I don't want to move anywhere in the near future. Besides its so handy for Europe.
I was only enamoured by the unusual specification really.
Problem solved. Thankyou all.

'Plenty more fishes in the sea'?
Rofl. I said that to a longstanding client / acquaintance once and thought he was going to unscrew my head and do something unmentionable with it. I didn't realise at the time that he was still in the process of getting rid of 'her' and all its attendant issues. I thought she was long gone.

Thanks. Problem solved.
Moving like that doesn't appeal anymore - The steering wheel would be on the wrong side of the Mercedes.

A ha! Contrary isn't it!
The Ar query was for another reason entirely, btw.
Problem solved now thankyou.

Best wishes to all.

Utopia probably does not exist and many decisions in life are a comprimise. They can also be viewed as challenges. I do not find it all that strange for a women of today to openly express what she wants. Perhaps better than a hidden list of items or secret agendas. To me what she stated where the average norms in todays world.

. The cultural differance between the two of you can work either way. Again one hell of a lot of variables as usual in any potential relationship. Plus a few extras thrown in it seems. My guess is that you will decide if you are up to the challenge or not. She has so to speak put the cards on the table.

As we get older the actual choices perhaps increase but most of them will not be workable. A friend of mine delayed getting married for a long time. He thought experience in life perhaps would help him.

It backfired in my opinion. He will not even live long enough to see his son reach the age of majority. I asked him years ago the reason he was getting married to her. He told me she was kind of subserviant.

I never had the heart to tell him they do not really make models like that or if they really do would be rare.. Actually she turned out to be one of the most demanding wives I have ever seen.

Hit it and quit it... Just wrap it first. O_O


Maybe thats why I am having problems.....

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