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JenTay · #1 07-14-2004, 10:00 AM

Whenever you are on a date (esp. a first date), be sure to tip the server well.

I got set up on a blind date yesterday. I usually go the drink-after-work route not the dinner route on first dates. It makes the getaway easier if the date is a dud.

Anyway, it was going ok until the bill came. I usually let the guy pay. The guy was going to leave a dollar! When I saw that, I insisted on paying for half the bill and personally handed the server a good tip AFTER the dollar was conspicuously left on the table. It was clear to the server that it was a first date (and the last) I got a smile and a nod from the server on the way out.

Guys, I know money is hard to come by these days, but consider this before leaving a single as a tip.

Another tip to you guys with daughters. If someone asks for their number, it is better for them to give out an email address (one specially created for dates) or a pager number (not cell). Having specific rules like this makes life simpler. Guys usually get the message after a few unanswered pages.

Any other dating tips are welcome. In fact, any other disaster dating stories would be welcome as well for the benefit of the single members in the forum.

G-Benz · #2 07-14-2004, 10:08 AM

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Originally posted by JenTay
Another tip to you guys with daughters. If someone asks for their number, it is better for them to give out an email address (one specially created for dates) or a pager number (not cell). Having specific rules like this makes life simpler. Guys usually get the message after a few unanswered pages.

Any other dating tips are welcome.

Good tip! My daughter is 10, but I'm getting a good collection of handguns started! :p

Can't add any tips...I haven't dated in 15 years, and didn't live a bachelor life worth bragging about...so my tips would be how NOT to attract women!

...maybe it was those $1 tips?

89-300ce · #3 07-14-2004, 10:14 AM

How much was the bill?

JenTay · #4 07-14-2004, 10:21 AM

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Originally posted by 89-300ce
How much was the bill?

almost $30 i think

89-300ce · #5 07-14-2004, 10:32 AM

Yeah, that's more than a little on the tight side. However, I would never try to impress on the first date with big tipping. To me it's so obvious/transparent that I'd be afraid of insulting her intelligence. Plus I'm too vain to be fake.

rickg · #6 07-14-2004, 10:33 AM

When my oldest daughter(now married) was growing up I always teased her that when she brought a date by to meet us for the first time I'd be sitting there in the living room cleaning the shot gun, just get the point across to her date to be careful with my daughter. Didn't think much of it, until one day a fella came by to pick her up for a date. The poor guy was as nervous as hell when he met me

I found out later from her that she told him the story about me and my shotgun, and he apparently took it serious

KirkVining · #7 07-14-2004, 11:45 AM

Jen, any guy who would lose a chance with you over a six buck tip is not only a dud, but a major fool as well. Good riddance I say.

#8 07-14-2004, 11:51 AM

I gotta go on a date this Friday with a pretty good looking girl, seems nice to.

I guess a tip from myself would be to not hold back your personality or who you are on the first date, just paint a clear picture of yourself so the person you are dating can come to appreciate/not appreciate the person who is really you. You wouldnt want this coming up later on maybe the 4th or 5th date.

LK1 · #9 07-14-2004, 11:56 AM

JEN TAY "Another tip to you guys with daughters. If someone asks for their number, it is better for them to give out an email address (one specially created for dates) or a pager number (not cell). Having specific rules like this makes life simpler. Guys usually get the message after a few unanswered pages."

Hey Jen,
Being single (again), and with little patience for playing stupid dating games I hope you can enlighten me as to why a woman would give a guy her number when she has no intention of going out with him?
Why does he have to call her a few times with no response "to get the message"?
Why doesn't she just tell the truth?
I thought women wanted honesty? (Yeah I know, just pouring it on here).
Don't interpret this as a flame, I'm truly curious as to the working of the female mind.

rickg · #10 07-14-2004, 12:20 PM

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Originally posted by LK1
I'm truly curious as to the working of the female mind.

LOL

aren't we all!!

:p

jpb5151 · #11 07-14-2004, 12:53 PM

I'm married anyhow, but the main reason I give a big tip is so the waiter people don't spit on my food next time.

When single, I've also gotten completely disgusted by calling a girl several times and getting the "she's not in" deal. If you're not into something, at least be adult enough to say it straight!

G-Benz · #12 07-14-2004, 01:05 PM

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When single, I've also gotten completely disgusted by calling a girl several times and getting the "she's not in" deal. If you're not into something, at least be adult enough to say it straight!

Maybe you think that way, but the vast majority of men have a double standard.

If the woman is honest enough to tell you to "buzz off" at the first encounter, the guy will just write her (and others like her) off as a "b!#c#!

So most of us (men AND women) try to let the other party off easy without hurting any fragile egos.

If the direct approach is too painful, then repeatedly feign the "fugitive" method, until the other person finally "gets it"...

JenTay · #13 07-14-2004, 01:27 PM

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Originally posted by LK1
JEN TAY "Another tip to you guys with daughters. If someone asks for their number, it is better for them to give out an email address (one specially created for dates) or a pager number (not cell). Having specific rules like this makes life simpler. Guys usually get the message after a few unanswered pages."

Hey Jen,
Being single (again), and with little patience for playing stupid dating games I hope you can enlighten me as to why a woman would give a guy her number when she has no intention of going out with him?
I can't speak for all women but let me clarify. I am talking about the calls after the first date. There are two schools of thought on this one. Both extreme. Once is that it is rude to tell the guy "no dice" after the first date and after you find out dental hygiene was not a priority for him growing up so she ends up not returning the calls. The other side says be honest and just tell him to f*%k off after the first date. In my opinion, since most dates are paid for by the guy, the chick does not want to be viewed as being in it only for the meal even after she has decided that she's not interested. My point is, i may give a guy my number and later change my mind if he calls, or i may give my number and go out once and then change my mind after i find out that the fit is right, or not give my number out at all. Whichever way it goes, the girl as an adult has the right to choose. How this is interpretted by the guy is a different story.

Why does he have to call her a few times with no response "to get the message"?

see above

Why doesn't she just tell the truth?

the 'truth' is not a clear black and white for men and women. when you are driving on the road with you girlfriend and she asks " are you thirsty, sweetie?"......what do you say?
do you say no i'm not and keep driving ? OR
do you read between the lines and really hear her say "I thirsty, stop the damn car and get me a drink". My point is, there is no absolute right or wrong way. Is the glass half empty or half full?

I thought women wanted honesty? (Yeah I know, just pouring it on here). Yes but there is brutally honest, cheesy honest, tackless honest, political honest, stupid honest, xxxxx honest....see what i mean?

Don't interpret this as a flame, I'm truly curious as to the working of the female mind.

engatwork · #14 07-14-2004, 01:38 PM

Jennifer - I'm not going to tip to impress a date/wife/whatever. My tips are based on good service and the better the service the better the tip.

tip of the day
Stay out of dark bars

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JenTay · #15 07-14-2004, 01:44 PM

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Originally posted by engatwork
Jennifer - I'm not going to tip to impress a date/wife/whatever. My tips are based on good service and the better the service the better the tip.

tip of the day
Stay out of dark bars.

that a good tip! my asthma usually keeps me out of the dark and smoky bars anyway.

another tip:

don't eat yellow snow