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Originally Posted by softconsult
Also women often are put off by guys following them around like a puppy. In other words, you may have to act somewhat dis-interested to make them interested in you.
Steve
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Good points...but lets clarify "disinterested".
All women like having someone interested in them. Just not "stalking". But you have dated others, so we'll assume for now that you are comfortable around women, and don't appear desperate.
What you don't want to be is perpetually available...you had other life interests before you met her, so don't abandon them for the new love interest. Continue doing as you have, and if you made other plans, keep them. She has a life as well, and will probably not include you in those aspects either...it's this way in a marriage too.
It's not important that you don't come off as "wordly" or "all-knowing". Someone like that is actually kinda intimidating. Show interest in wines (as Steve put it), and she will be more than happy to enlighten you. Besides, if this encounter doesn't work, you've at least learned a new skill that you can take to the next relationship.
A lot of what I use to woo my wife were skills I acquired from past girlfriends...(NO NOT THOSE!!!)