There's one thing that the road crews are doing up here for the past 3 or 4 years...
When sealing the cracks, you have the one guy, air gun in hand, removing the schmutz from the cracks, then the next guy or 3 are the ones with the HOT-TAR-WAND and hose-wranglers...they do their thing, then the last guy in the band is the TP-guy.
YEP...the Toilet-Paper guy...
He has what looks like a paint-roller on the end of a stick, and he just pops on a roll of squeezable Charmin, then he rolls the paper over the fresh tar's surface...so the cars press the stuff into the tar and don't pick up the tar and re-paint the rocker-panels...
Maybe you can do the same with her driveway...use the 2-ply and let her know it's a trick you saw a crew on the highway doing...it will keep the tar from spreading to the bottom of the shoes and she won't have to worry about it being tracked into the house...and the TP is "earth/tree friendly" so eventually, it will disappear.
As for the concrete...is she talking about replacing the concrete (when she has the money) with new concrete or is she thinking about going the asphalt route?
Either way...proper prep and foundational improvements will definately be the order for the day...
GL!!!