UPDATE....

1) VIBRATION

thanks for all the responses. i have changed the flex disc and the tranny mount.
this definately resolved most of the vibration problems.

2) HESITATION UNDER LOAD.

i have replaced the fuel filter..... no change.
checked fuel pressures...all o.k
(not sure how to check for flow..volume) i guess i have to bridge fuel pump somehow??????

the car still hesitates under full acceleration or when kicking down hard...

how do i check "for self adaptation and air mass for mass flow sensor" do i need special equipment or can i do the check???

your responses are appreciated and it is taking "baby steps" but the car is getting better.....thanks