I think you need to modify it just a little bit to make it personal. Some guys change wheels or all euro headlights. Me, I picked up a pair of seats this winter from a 98 BMW 750iL. Later this year I will install them. They have adjustments for shoulder, lumbar and headrest support along with 4 heating elements. I still really like my car after 9 years, but the old seats are really hard on my bad back -
As for understanding my wife, I've only known her for 16 years, so I'm still a noob there!