Drama&bullcrap at work,questions on what to do

[Nate]

Allright, I got hired 3 months at Farm&Fleet, along with a charatrer known as "Derrick"

We've got the same hire date, and job title... Carry out (garbage, dishes, carts, carryouts, and other pitty work)


He's a real prick. First off, he's lazy, and allways makes me finish his crap for him... He likes to take the "long route" with the cart pusher around the parking lot... And "chill" by the cardboard crusher.

But thats not all...

I was cleaning the bathroom, and he was in the supply closet. We got into an argument on who should clean what (womens bathroom vs mens). He ended up shoving me, so I shoved him back. He pushed me against the wall, and said dont ever argue with me again (or something like that) or I'll jack you in the face, dont think I wont, p****


A few weeks ago, I went to the store, and bought a toolbox for my truck when I was off... My mom was with me. The day after that, he called my mom a milf, and a few more comments on that subject. I told him to go to hell, and dont talk about my mom again. He said "or what, gonna rat on me, u nark" I went inside



Last friday, he wanted to borrow my truck. I said no way, why should I. He said he needed new tires for his car... I offered to let him pay for the tires, and I'd pick them up for him... He said he didnt want them to get stolen from the store, and we left it at that... Theres no way in hell he's driving anything of mine.


we were walking the garbage bins to the dumpster (big orange bins)... He asked me "are you gay" I paused, then said no... He said "i think your a ******, because a real man woulda said so sooner"

he's also called me a ****** a few other times...

What should I do? I know he'll know I turned him in, and he'll problelly screw with my car if he gets fired because of his behavior... We've got a meeting on thursday, for the carry outs evauluation.

I'm not sure what to do here. It really pisses me off. I consider it physical and sexual harrasment... I havent written down any dates or times, but I will start to, and mabey build a case against him? Either to management or a civil suit for a cease and desist order (or even a restraining order)

What are my options? Can somebody help me?

I want this to be taken care of, without having managment say you're both fired... I dont care about him, but I really dont want him to screw with my car (I will have comp on it, though... thats not the point)

tks alot, I really appreciate it
~Nate

[John Doe]

I certainly wouldn't do it if I were you, but if it were me at your age , I would have invited the guy out somewhere remote this weekend for some beers and female action then I would have shown up a little late and beat the **** out of him. The next week at work would be a little awkward, but he would have quit by Friday. Now, that was 20 years ago, and it might be different now, because instead of just having my brother hiding in the bushes as a witness, I would have him taking pictures with his cellphone

With all the crazy stuff going on now I probably wouldn't tell my kid to do this, but then it was warranted, and it worked.

[John Doe]

One thing you could do if you want to tattle, is to get a digital dictaphone and record him calling you a ******.

[GermanStar]

Command more respect, and he'll leave you alone.

[Jim B.]

The path of least resistance would have you landing another job that paid as well or better, and not any farther away, and that you liked.

Who needs this kind of crap on the job?

[Nate]

I like the job, its just I dont like that one guy...

I want to do this without violating laws, or getting into a situation that gets me fired... Command more respect? How to deal with bullys? Yeah, except he seems to be more of an extream case of violence, and is a bit bigger then me... The bathrooms we were cleaning are right next to the managment office upstairs.


Least resistance would be great, except I LIKE the job...

Theres gotta be something better I can do.

Tks alot
~Nate

[GermanStar]

So he picks on everyone like that, or just you? Bullies pick on soft targets -- don't be one.

[KylePavao]

Play the nutcase card. Great way to get people to leave you alone. If you ever any sort of conversation, what you did on your weekends, be the calm nice guy. Talk about your hunting trips, how much fun it was to nail that deer in the neck with the .30-06 slug. Sure you may not be physically imposing, but play his game. Seem like a complete nut. Just do you work, and keep your conversations with him about things that make him feel awkward. Maybe how skinning the deer on your trip, and making a rug out of it was fun. Make yourself out to be superior, and scarier than him. Words can be a lot more powerful. I had a someone like this at work, in a supermarket. Refer to him as buddy "Whats up buddy, how we doin today" Play mind games. From experience, it works. Read the gun magazines on break, just be a creep. It will end if he thinks his shoving might motivate you to do stuff much more crazy. Volunteer to clean the mens room next time..seem like a big creep. I assume this is not your full time aspiration, so who cares, after you move on you won't see this guy anymore.

[Jim B.]

Nate

Don't forget, what we have in common here, is we like or drive Mercedes, that doesn't make us experts in human relations....

[Botnst]

Quit your job, buy an sks and return shooting everybody in the post office. Oh wait, wrong job.

Is there a grievance process? If there is, follow it scrupulously.

If there isn't and you need this job, you're going into new territory for me. I never needed a job so badly that I put up with crap (except in the military...). If you knock heads with him, give him a good fight, he'll leave you alone whether you win or lose. But you'll probably both lose your job. You will have your self-respect.

Or how about this....keep a diary detailing his behavior towards you. Report his behavior to your supervisor. If no change happens, hire a mean lawyer and sue the crap out of the jerk and your employer on grounds of harassment and unsafe workplace.

[TX76513]

You really only have a couple serious choices.

Quit and find another job - it doesn't sound like the dream job.

Contact management. It's the employers duty to ensure workers are safe and free of harassment. If they fail to do anything make a written complaint to the EEOC in your area. Document everything that has happened and everyone you talked to (and when). Take the notice of complaint the EEOC will give you and get a restraining order on the jerk.

After the EEOC makes a ruling take the notice of ruling to your nearest "billboard" attorney and file suit against the employer and the jerk. Then take the money and go to college.

[raymr]

I would be splitting my time between carefully exposing this guys behavior to management, and finding a new job. The management sounds pretty weak there anyway, if there is such confusion about duties. Cleaning bathrooms and crushing cardboard is for low lifes. You seem to be above that, regardless of age.

[Kuan]

Have you actually considered that this guy might actually like you? Sometimes people can't figure out what to do, like young boys when they have a crush on a girl, they tease them.

Idiots are everywhere and you will likely find another POS like him at your next job. I think JD's idea is best, take a tape recorder to work and nail him.

Personally I would beat his ass so he will respect my aww-thor-i-tie

[MattBelliveau]

Man, I'm glad I was 6'3", 200# by the time I was 13. Anyways, tell management. If it happens again, tell management again, and pay attention to them. If they seem dismissive, mention a little something about your lawyer (or parents' lawyer). Things should change. You could push it a bit by having an articulate friend call down there, playing the lawyer role. The last thing a store wants is a lawsuit. Store have surveillance? And make sure you speak with confidence. Reread KylePavao's last post. This guy may just need intimidated. Confidence, confidence, confidence!