I'd go for a younger one who hasn't been divorced and minus the kids. why? face it, they have "baggage" and might have an ex who still lurks in the background. the ex might be understanding, but then again, he might not be. I've noticed that some divorced women have a positive attitude about their ex while their ex may not share the same sentiment. the woman thinks everything is "cool" while the ex is still emotionally attached to his ex-wife and may exhibit jealous tendencies. and there YOU are getting in the middle of it. no thanks, give me a 20 something with no baggage, plus you can train her right.

I'd rather deal with baggage than a 20something nitwit who can't carry a conversation. My wife came to the table with 4 kids and a dip**** x-husband who I have come to an understanding with...he leaves me alone, I leave him alone. We're not friends, but he has calmed way down.

Anyway, I met my wife in an online group for parents of kids on the autistic spectrum, so we had an automatic point of commonality, although having TWO autistic kids in a household can be interesting.

Have fun with it, see where it goes. You might get laid, you might make a friend, you might find a long term thing.

Online dating is a great way to meet someone. Pictures are the key. Make sure they are recent and of decent quality. You may want to consider getting a Facebook page. Single women scour those things to look for a potential date. The match.com types of sites can also be fine but they cost you money.

I met my wife (well soon to be, we are getting married in less than two weeks) online. Believe it or not I met her on Craigslist. She was new in town and had a pair of Vikings tickets from a coworker and really didn't know anybody so she put an ad on the platonic section. I figured the worst-case scenario was I'd drink a few beers and make fun of Packer fans :D (Vikes/Packers game).

My advice, go for it.

All the women I have dated over the Internet stayed with me for good. My dog disinterrs them occasionally, finding the occasional femur or jawbone he has drug about the yard is getting annoying.

I'm going to go out on a limb and say women over their mid-twenties don't want to date you, not the other way around. They can see right through your facade.

'You can train her right.' Yep, that is what marriage/relationship is all about! :rolleyes: Her doing exactly what I want.

Back when it was more fashionable (12 years ago now), I met my Ukrainian wife online. I got lucky and found an honest one. YMMV-big time.

Rick

watch when you step out on a limb, someone might shake the tree. since you may not be in possession of information concerning my personal situation, you might be "making an assumption" AKA "shooting in the dark". both instances are usually incorrect due to lack of personal knowledge.

now that we've cleared that up, onto the subject at hand:

granted there are some relationships where the man brings four kids and new wife brings four kids to the table that succeed. that is great for those that can make it work.

these are people who previously emotionally bonded to their ex and in my experience that bond never completely "evaporates". the kids still think of new daddy as "step father" and their real father as "real father". hard to compete with that.

and, having lived and been around most parts of these United States, there are certain geographical areas I've placed a big X magic marker "Do not even think about these areas" warning sign on my love map. something in the drinking water turns women from those areas into certified nut cases as far as I'm concerned. and no, I'm not going to name those geographical areas on this forum. I've experienced it first hand by living and breathing in those markets. they can keep it.

met my wife in a yahoo chat room.been married five years next month and never regretted it for a minute .online is just like anything else you gotta weed out the ones that wont work for you and make some good friends in the process.

I see no reason why it should not apply, do you?

Don't do it!!!

I dated 3 women I found on E-Harmony before marrying my 2nd wife. The other 2 were nuts from the start! I wish I had never tried dating that way.

She started showing signs of going crazy after 4 months of marriage, but I stayed the course and decided to try to make it work. After 2 years with this nut job, I told her it was time for her to leave.

The following night, my house burned to the ground and my youngest daughter spent 19 days in the hospital from smoke inhalation.

She is now spending time in Ohio's custody for arson and attempted murder.

Run like hell and don't date those from the internet...They are nuts!!!

IMO, there is always weeding out. After all, if I am agnostic and I meet a girl I am interested in but find out 3 dates later that religion is a huge part of her life and any mate must adopt her religion, that is 3 dates I have wasted. Money, time and effort. Either way, you are weeding them out. One is quicker than the other. If in her profile she states that she are extremely religious and I see it, I'll pass on it just like I would pass on her after I date her once or twice. After all it would take me no less than a date to figure it out. This way, I save the money and time.

Depends on the divorce sitiation. If the girl has been divorced 4 or 5 times, that is a red flag. Now once divorced you can say that she has made a stupid mistake of marrying the kid out of her HS class. Several times and you are divorced? Maybe it is YOU that is the problem.

Yes with kids you are always attached to the ex no matter how you play it unless he dies or you adopt the kids. Way too much baggage for me to deal with.

I assume you met her once or twice before you got married right? The fact that you met her on line has nothing to do with the fact that she was/is nuts and tried to kill you. Had you met her in a bar or nightclub she could have deceived you just as easily.

The main advantage of the internet is you can cast a broader net. You get exposed to substantially more people and increase your likely hood of meeting someone. You still have to check them out. Like buying a car. Internet gives you more options but your still have to do a PPI and check it out before buying.

Sorry you had a bad experience and I am glad you and your daughter are ok.

I've been giving situations like this a LOT of thought lately. nowadays, when someone applies for a job, usually a drug screening along with a criminal background check is performed. HOWEVER, there are certified nut jobs who can still slip through the cracks due to the fact that some psycho and sociopaths are near geniuses and know how to answer the interviewer's questions correctly. an item which sometimes is left out of the hiring process is a complete and thorough pscyhologcial screening. granted one cannot weed out all socio and psychopaths but one can at least try. It is known as 'performing due diligence'.

there are a number of companies that are now offering this service to employers and employment agencies and it appears to be beneficial. by the time you marry 'em, hire 'em or enter into any type of relationship with 'em it may be too late. I think the term is known as 'Pre-screening' X10.

Ouch sorry to hear that