Yes, I tested that starter-lockout relay behind the instrument cluster, and it's working.

Since I can't get a test lead onto the starter, I believe there is a connector that I can "tap" into and test, that is between the solenoid/starter and the harness.

Is this the connector with 3-poles and is under the ABS wheel-sensor connector that is located on the back of the LH/ABS/ASR electronics box (passenger side in USA) ?

If so, I see three wires, Violet/White, and Brown/Black, and Brown/can't remember.

How/which ones do I test and what am I looking for ?

TIA,

:-) neil