Irreverent S.O.B. I have no problem imagining that is what you would want people to say at your funeral!

At my funeral people will say, "If only Bill Gate had given him that second billion he would have brought peace on Earth, cured cancer, and revealed who was on the grassy knoll."

To answer the original question, "I am sorry for your loss." That acknowledges the pain of others and is not judgmental.

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