I checked the pins on the fuel pump relay:
with the ignition off
87 and 30 (7 and 8) always have power, showing 8 amps
with the ignition on
TD and 31 (10 and 11) showed nothing

while testing with the ignition on I made a connection between two pins which engaged the starter, might have been 8 and 11, not sure.

Once again I reinstalled the relays and the car started normally, after letting it run for about ten minutes it stalled and would not restart. It will restart if I jumper the fuel pump, and the tach is working fine. When cranking there is a signal to the tach.

I can't seem to make sense of this problem and going to take a break until I find more troubleshooting info.

While troubleshooting I noticed the water pump is slinging grease from the bearing so I got that going for me too!