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Old 01-01-2007, 10:41 PM
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Originally Posted by Botnst View Post
You need professional legal, medical and social advice.

I cannot imagine how to untangle this problem and also maintain strong relations with your wife. Aside from the (easy) opinion, above, I think your first duty is to your relationship with your wife and all other relationships are secondary. So in furtherance of that goal, I would encourage and support your wife as she makes the decisions concerning her parents. Perhaps if she had legal, medical and sociological advice to guide her, your support through these difficult, heartbreaking struggles would be golden to her.

Kerry, that is a tough, tough situation. best of luck.

B
I agree with Bot for the most part, but even though our relationships to our parents are secondary, I am a firm believer in the Ten Commandmants, and there is the one about honoring your mother and father.

Thus, we all (in this case your wife) have a moral responsibility to honor our parents until death. I reckon she ought to make arrangements so that he has a roof over his head, and the care he needs to ensure a meaningful life, however much he has left.

If your mother-in-law is as unkind as you believe she is, I'd go along with the idea to separate them.
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