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Originally Posted by Plantman
Didn't we go back and forth on this once before? Correct me if I'm wrong, but aren't you the one who said he will never have kids? If so, you won't understand.
All I will be doing is talking for him, I will not be paying up anything. It does not cost me anything to talk.
You cannot expect a 17 year old to understand the reprecussion for making a mistake with your credit.
If I can avoid him that anguish by wasting 15 minutes I will gladly do so.
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Yes, I am not interested in having kids. What's to understand? At 15, I went and threw stones at a neighbors floodlight. Dad could have given him a few bucks and made it all go away. Dad stood by and made sure I would fix the problem. I had to go borrow the money from him and with terms of repayment and interest, go make the calls to find the correct parts and then go fix it myself. Well, lets see. What did I learn. Well, firstly, don't go breaking stuff unless you are willing to fix it. I also learnt how difficult it was to have to go take a bus and skirt from place to place to find the right stuff, make phone calls to try narrow it down. Did Dad have a car? Yep. Was he willing to drive me around? Nope. Had to get a taxi so I could get all the stuff home. Who paid for it? Guess. Who got cut from the broken glass and learnt how difficult it is to undo mistakes? That would be me. In short, I learnt a few valuable lessons. Much more than if Dad had gone to fix it all for me. Think I like being marched to the neighbors house and apologize to the guy? Think I like calling around for the parts and do the chasing around? Think I liked borrowing money to fix my mistakes? No. Think I don't get irritated by my neighbors today? Sure I do. Think I go break their stuff even tho the thought does come to my mind? No. What was that lesson worth, in your opinion? Yes, my Dad spanked me, punished me and even made me pay for my mistakes. At the time, he was the biggest SOB that ever lived. Even cursed him from time to time. When I think back today, I realized that if he didn't love me enough to teach me a lesson or two back then, I'd probably be worse off than I am today. Yes, the punishments were harsh then to me. Often I asked why he didn't just pay the few bucks and make it go away. Today, I understand.
True.
Maybe not. But you can certainly expect that this 17 yo will be respectful of your wishes since you are being responsible for him financially.
Yes, if you put it that way, you are correct. However, my question is what is the lesson you are imparting? You screw up and Dad will fix it?