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Originally Posted by aklim
You'd probably lose. I have tossed my wife to the dogs before because she has done something I told her not to do. Sink or swim was up to her. I made sure I was covered and the rest was hers. I just shrugged my shoulders and said "Sucks to be you." If I won't bail her out of her mess, why would I do it to anyone else? Unlike most others, I don't adopt double standards simply because something is now inconvenient for me.
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I hope that you are willing to be judged with the same yardstick that you measure others.
I am not about to tell you how to live your life, that's entirely your business.
But, in my opinion, it is a poor husband who looks at his wife and is willing to toss her to the dogs just because she did something you told her not to do. (I am assuming that the "thing" that you told her not to do did not involve a criminal act of some sort).
But for just about anything else, to toss your wife to the dogs simply because she would not obey your commands is just wrong. But if she puts up with it, then more power to her.
I would not treat my spouse that way and I would not treat my children that way.
I am not a particularly Christian person (being a prosecutor has made me see enough bad things to sour me on religion). But I very much like the parable of the good shepherd who is willing to leave his entire flock behind in order to go after the one sheep that strays away.
Husband and wife are there to, among other things, support and hold each other up, through bad times and through good times. It is easy to love a spouse, or a child, when things are good. It is hard to love them when things go south. But that is when they need more support and love.
But what do I know? I have been married to the same person for 30 years!
Again, not telling you how to live your life, but it must be a pretty lonely and insecure place at the aklim household, when your spouse knowes that the penalty for her disobedience is being tossed to the dogs.
Peace out!