I am not sure if the schematic I have is correct for USA cars but the following might be of assistance;

Violet wire from pin 50 on ignition starter switch to pin 3 on starter lockout relay.
Violet/White wire from pin 1 on starter lock out relay to pin 8 on neutral switch.
Violet/White wire from pin 3 on neutral switch to starter solenoid.
Red/grey wire from fuse #16 (rear fuse box) to pin 4 at starter lockout relay.
Brown/grey wire from pin 5 of starter lockout relay to pin 25 of the infra red control module in the luggage compartment.