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Originally Posted by Mistress
I saw a blurb on a news video with a therapist talking about whether having sex with a virtual female was considered "cheating," and the therapist said yes. On the one hand this Second Life virtual could be used as a therapeutic tool for problem solving with the initial family however but, I do believe it's popularity has given rise to the "Great Escape" that plaques us with computer fantasy games. Our social and interpersonal skills along with grammer and manners are going down the proverbial crapper because of computers and I don't think these Second Life games are doing humans much good.
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Let's turn that around for a second Mistress.
In the "good old days" men (and women) had real affairs. Real affairs had the risk of unwanted pregnancies, STD, and the ever-present risk of getting shot at by an an angry husband or wife.
In a virtual "reality" affairs don't run those risks. Yes, because the computer is so handy, there is the risk of spending way too much time in SL or some other similar place (like the man in the article). But at least the "wronged" spouse knows where the "cheater" is: sitting at his desk, in his underwear, with a can of Diet-Coke at hand and a bag of chips on the desk.
Women, I think, worry more about these cyber affairs because to women mental and emotional intimacy is more important than to a man. I think most women are willing to forgive a man who has an affair and says, in his defense, "it was
only physical and I didn't love her.". If there is emotional attachment and intimacy (as in a cyber relationship) women tend to be hurt more and be less forgiving.
We men are a little different. I guess we can forgive a wife getting chummy with the guy at the office, as long as all they do is talk (less "talk" we have to listen to and deal with at the end of the day). But if that same guy was getting physically intimate with the wife, it would be a different story.
This is a brave new world that we are entering. I feel badly for our kids and grandkids who will have to deal with issues that would have never even occurred to us.