Get thru to him? just sit on his face and give him a handjob every morning,that'll prevent this "experimentation".
Most married fellows are pussies when it comes down to their own needs,as they don't want to "force"their desires upon their disingenuously harried spouses or some such *****.

If Wifey has hormonal/prozac/anhedonia issues just be a man and get your pleasure elsewhere.

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