Whew! I hope you are a very tall man. Ex-pro or college football player maybe? Just curious if you have seen or thought about seeing a nutritionist or your doctor for some tips or programs. Do you have regular physical exams?

With a family and business to take care of, your most precious asset - time - is squeezed to the max. You must make time on a regular basis to tend to your next precious asset - your health.

IMO, it's just like trying to quit smoking. It comes down to willpower. You won't quit smoking until you want to. You won't lose weight until you want and are willing to sacrifice (mainly time) to do it.

The best motivation for me is in a group setting. Be it aerobics, a gym, yoga or tai chi, kick boxing, whatever.
The group dynamic will push you to acheive more than you will by pushing yourself. My best results came from aerobics 3x a week. (Dating a vegitarian at the same time didn't hurt.).

Good luck.