Elau: I am with you in spirit. We lost our Molly on the 11th of this month. She was nine. She'd only had a few "off" days and was fine on our morning walk then suddenly was very ill. Turns out she had a tumor that ruptured at her spleen and was bleeding internally. Three hours later we'd lost her.

It hurts SO much. And the hurt keeps coming. And it stops both of us dead in our tracks. But it is getting easier. The return of her ashes to us made a huge difference. They are currently comforting us in a way we can't understand. Eventually we'll take them to her favourite places.

Remember the great times, cry and talk about her with those that understand. Don't try to deny your feelings. And please don't think that you can do anything important today.