I'm a sappy old goon. My wife thinks I'm too mushy. One thing about women that (IMHO) is indisputable: They go into every relationship with an eye toward changing the other person. Nothing wrong with a little fine-tuning but beware the drastic alteration. You become somebody you are not and maybe someone she doesn't like after the transformation. (OK, to be fair I should add that men go into a relationship with the delusion that she will never change and then get upset when she does.)
One thing is for certain. Open dialogue is the key.

Ditto what Evan said also.

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1983 M-B 240D-Gone too.
1976 M-B 300D-Departed.

"Good" is the worst enemy of "Great".