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Originally Posted by nh500sl
There is this women that I know, she is 23 years older then me. She has been divorced for at least ten years and has never had any kids. She seems like really a cool person, is smart inteligent and actractive. She likes cars, good food, and just haveing a good time. She also seems to be a fairly no nonsese type of person, which is something that I appriciate. I think this probably comes with age I don't know for sure.
We have gone out several times wine tasting etc. She can't seem to find the right guy and apparently, I do find her charming and enjoyable to spend time with, so What should I do. I'm 23 BTW
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Without knowing more than what you have said here, if you are also attracted to her on more than a just friends level, (and you are there already as she has gone places with you several times already!) then you may need to find out if she has interest in taking it to a higher physical level.
"Lean in", look into her eyes when she talks to you, show some real interest in what she talks about, put your arm around her shoulder or take her hand, when you walk, and if she is older, divorced, and a "no nonsense" type, show some restrained physical interest, and she will let you know loud and clear, whether she feels any chemistry with you or not...
Talk to her! Ask her what her past relationships were like, and what she is looking for now, what kind of a relationship she hopes to find, and get a hint in that you'd like to know, if she feels anyone that much younger than her is of value relationship wise. If you keep the questions low key, not sexually explicit in any way, it's pretty likely she will, if feeling not threatened, feel pretty safe in telling you exactly what she thinks of men in particular.
And if the conversation is lubricated with a few glasses of her favorite wine, it's likely she may give you a very implicit or explicit clue or statement about how she looks at YOU.
...So chances are, she knows well if she is feeling a physical connection, with you, so if you do too, and give her the chance to act on it, with little hints like those, you will likely - so long as you are gracious, and do not come across as crude and like gangbusters, you may be in for the affair of your life.
If it worked out that way, you may find, perhaps to your surpirse, many women that age - having been divorced, are
used to a VERY healthy sexual past life, and miss it terribly, and could be VERY ready and willing to encounter you that way, and if they really like you, they could be ready to be all over you, and could give you a mind blowing series of sexual encounters, and be utterly uninhibited, most likely without pregnancy worries that you would have with younger ones.
You need to find out for sure whether you are already in "Just friends forever mode" though, first.
I have a number of female friends around that age and could throw this out to them for comments, if that would help and you want it....after all, this is just an automobile online site frequented by males mostly and I know some females who are divorced AND OF that age group, who would just love to answer a question like that, as they have a keen and consuming interest in sex and relationships
... To ask here is in a way like the blind asking for guidance from the Cyclops, this is a Mercedes Benz OT discussion group with mostly males who are totally clueless compared to the women of that age themselves who would never be found *here* on this board.
Many of the ones I speak of are actually *very* frustrated in finding ANYONE suitable to even ASK them for a date, at all, in many cases, and they believe the attention goes mostly to the younger, supposedly "Hot" looking ones in their 20s and 30s that are of childbearing age always..
It's been said, "A man always wonders if he will "get lucky" on the first date, but the woman ALREADY knows ... 